Dr. K

So I'm going to let someone walk all over me.

Or not even walk all over me.

It's I will let someone take advantage of me once and I will forgive them and I will let them take advantage of me again.

And I will forgive them.

But Lewis, when you shed those relationships, don't you become a mean person?

Shouldn't you be a caring person who maintains your, you want to be someone who maintains relationships, right?

That's a good thing to be.

Because you are, this is the positive identity.

Oh, I want to be compassionate.

I want to be great.

right?

We feel so guilty when we step away from our positive identity.

And then that guilt, because I don't like the feeling of guilt.

So you know what?

I'm going to let this person take advantage of me again.

So the goal, how do you tell?

Positive identity will shape your perceptions as well.

All identity will shape your perceptions.

So what we want to do is to see the world as it is, free of all perception.

And the only way you can do that is to get rid of identity.