Dr. Lisa DeMoor
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first heard Jun 2026
last heard 15 Jun
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What it means is that the emotions you have are actually in concert with what's happening in your world.
And I think that mental health is often defined by experiencing distress.
And that is 180 from where the culture is right now.
So often, mental health concerns and distress are treated as though they are one and the same.
But I'll give you several examples, it's so easy, of where the presence of distress is actually evidence of mental health, right?
So if the kid gets dumped, we expect distress, the absence of it would be concerning.
If a teenager has a huge test tomorrow and they have not started studying, we want to see some anxiety.
The absence of anxiety is more concerning than the presence of anxiety.
If someone's really mean to you, right?
If you're a teenager or an adult and someone's really mean to you, we expect to see hurt and then probably a self-protective anger.
Those are all unpleasant emotions.
Those are all unwanted emotions.
Those are evidence that we work exactly as we should.
And so to pathologize all of that means that people are spending their normal, healthy days feeling like there's something wrong with them, when in fact, that distress is proof that they work perfectly.
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Let's just go right down the rumination road.
So what I encourage parents and also peers to do if they're caring for a teenager who is really spinning their wheels, spinning their wheels, is to say to them, listen, talking about feelings usually helps.
But what I'm noticing is the more we're talking, the worse you feel.
So let's do this.
Let's put a pin in this.
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