Dr. Marielle Bouquet

And quite frankly, I wasn't really expecting my mother to offer this beautiful wisdom that she offered me.

But she mentioned that, you know, I come from a long line of strong people, of people that persevered,

And that I should get back in there and just give it my best.

That I had it in me.

I had all of this wisdom and strength that was passed down our lineage and that that would get me through.

And that just, it snapped me out of that imposter syndrome.

I was like, I do belong.

Yes, 100%.

I mean, we can't lose sight of the fact that we are inheriting more than just pain.

We're also inheriting strength, resilience.

We're inheriting words of affirmation that were spoken to us.

Dreams.

Dreams, right?

A lot of these things are also a part of what is placed on our plate.

And

When we lose sight of that, we can veer in the direction of resentment and pointing fingers rather than really looking at all the things and looking at the nuance of it all, right?

Granted.

Some parents are really, they do things that are truly unforgivable.

Some parents do things that require no contact for the rest of life, but not every parent.

Sometimes we just need to do the deep and hard work to bridge the connection in a way that feels healthy enough and that can actually last for the rest of the lifetime of the person doing the healing and the parent.