Dr. Marisa G. Franco

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Something Was Wrong · S26 Ep6: Friendship, Attachment, and Betrayal with Dr. Marisa G. Franco · 15 Jul 2026 podcast

Betrayal is typically defined in the research as breaking a norm of the friendship in a way that harms someone in the friendship.

So we almost have like an implicit set of rules based off of how the friendship has gone so far.

If someone suddenly...

boasts on us.

We were talking about the highly publicized, they are now dating our boyfriend after we dated our boyfriend, or they betray our confidence.

That's a very common one in friendships.

These are examples of sort of breaking a norm or an expectation in a way that causes harm.

And so there's depths to that.

You can think of someone broke your confidence around your mental health diagnosis.

That might be more serious than you telling them your feelings about your job.

So there's levels to that.

But the other thing is, when we think about the levels to the intensity of betrayal, interestingly, research shows, this is a theory called betrayal theory, that the same betrayal impacts us more severely depending on the closeness of the relationship.

And so if a best friend does the same harm to you that an acquaintance did, that's actually going to affect you even physiologically in terms of predicting PTSD symptoms or predicting physiological reactions to the betrayal.

It's going to affect you a lot more deeply if it's the best friend.

But interestingly, research finds that if a stranger were to harm us, so a stranger out of nowhere said something negative to us versus our best friend saying something negative to us, they would perceive that stranger as more culpable than our best friend.

And so when someone's very close to us and they harm us, it hurts us more.

But there's not always validation for and permission for us to be as hurt as we are, particularly in friendship.

We had originally come across your work because you were quoted in an article done by The Cut regarding friendship betrayal in the most recent season of Bravo's Summer House.

I have never watched this show before.

I did watch all three parts of the reunion, however.

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