Dr. Marisa G. Franco

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Something Was Wrong · S26 Ep6: Friendship, Attachment, and Betrayal with Dr. Marisa G. Franco · 15 Jul 2026 podcast

It's not that I always need to stay close to the people that have historically been close to me when it feels like it's happening at harm to myself.

But now it's like I feel like I have unconditional love for the closest people in my life, even if we're not close anymore.

But I don't have unconditional presence because I have to have unconditional love for myself, which means that people's access to me has to be based off of whether they're treating me in the way that I need.

Absolutely.

It looks like not attacking people's character, but instead sharing their impact on you.

So instead of, you're so lousy, you're a bad person, you've been cruel.

It looks like I was really hurt when that happened.

Here's how this affected me.

And inviting your friend to understand your world.

And it looks like also perspective taking for the person that harmed you in a way.

Because maybe that friend who sort of suddenly stopped responding for a couple months, maybe someone close to them in their life died or they were going through a period of depression.

And maybe they have a circumstance that shapes how you receive the act of harm.

And that's why it's important to both experience perspective taking if you were hurt, but also ask for that perspective taking too.

I also think there's a precious timing to everything.

Sometimes, particularly if we're anxiously attached, we might just want to get over it and move forward and forget the harm, even though it's still with us.

We're still thinking about it and we might just not be ready.

So sometimes, especially when it comes to betrayal, you might need to take some time apart.

and take a break for you to authentically re-engage in the friendship in a way that which you're actually open and not consistently vigilant that harm is going to come again, where you feel actually at peace with the connection.

We were talking about the closeness of the connection and how that really impacts how betrayal affects us.

I was thinking about this study that found that half of our friends don't consider us their friends and how that can be part of the...

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