Dr. Matt May

Oh, do you have a hypothesis or a guess?

Oh, do you have a hypothesis or a guess?

Oh, gosh, worthless, yeah. Yeah. I actually disagree with you on that. I think I'm priceless because I'm not for sale.

Oh, gosh, worthless, yeah. Yeah. I actually disagree with you on that. I think I'm priceless because I'm not for sale.

I felt good on that one.

I felt good on that one.

That was pretty big. Hit me with it again.

That was pretty big. Hit me with it again.

Oh, gosh, worthless. You know, I do have lots of flaws and shortcomings. I could improve in a lot of different dimensions, and I'm actually totally fine with that because I think I'm in good company there.

Oh, gosh, worthless. You know, I do have lots of flaws and shortcomings. I could improve in a lot of different dimensions, and I'm actually totally fine with that because I think I'm in good company there.

Yeah, yeah. So a couple things there. I think it's extremely unlikely that everyone thinks exactly the same way and that everyone is judging me and looking down on me. I think there are lots of really compassionate, thoughtful people out there who would witness bullying and want to come to my aid and care about me a lot.

Yeah, yeah. So a couple things there. I think it's extremely unlikely that everyone thinks exactly the same way and that everyone is judging me and looking down on me. I think there are lots of really compassionate, thoughtful people out there who would witness bullying and want to come to my aid and care about me a lot.

And for those people who are enjoying looking down on me or criticizing me, I don't have to care about them. It's not on me to be concerned about their thoughts. That can be something that they take along with them and doesn't belong to me.

And for those people who are enjoying looking down on me or criticizing me, I don't have to care about them. It's not on me to be concerned about their thoughts. That can be something that they take along with them and doesn't belong to me.

Yeah, I could ask, well, specifically whom? Who thinks that about me, and how do I know?

Yeah, I could ask, well, specifically whom? Who thinks that about me, and how do I know?

Yeah, go for it. I'm feeling good about my responses right now, and so feel free to pile on. You could add more negative thoughts to try to get me with them.

Yeah, go for it. I'm feeling good about my responses right now, and so feel free to pile on. You could add more negative thoughts to try to get me with them.

Let's do a role reversal manual. So could I play the negative thought? And I'd love to hear what you might say to a patient. If I were a patient and I'm struggling with this negative thought. How would you respond if I'm attacking you with it and saying, hey, you know, everyone is judging you. Everyone's looking down on you and thinking what a loser you are. Nobody likes you.

Let's do a role reversal manual. So could I play the negative thought? And I'd love to hear what you might say to a patient. If I were a patient and I'm struggling with this negative thought. How would you respond if I'm attacking you with it and saying, hey, you know, everyone is judging you. Everyone's looking down on you and thinking what a loser you are. Nobody likes you.