Dr. Meg Meeker

Wouldn't you have loved it if somebody came along, Dave, and said to your mom and dad, this is how Dave sees you and this is what he wants for you.

He wants from you.

I mean, it would be wonderful, you know, because then they would just hopefully deliver what you needed.

Of course it's true.

I wouldn't have written it.

Is that a trick question?

One of the things that I've done as a physician is I research the heck out of everything I write because we're under a lot of scrutiny.

And they're very politically incorrect, which I love.

The first one is you need to lead.

You need to be the leader.

And a lot of mothers, a lot of women in homes hate that because to them, the word leadership connotes, I'm just going to steamroll over you.

No, no, no, no, no.

Leading your kids well means being that great example of

of how to control yourself, how to be kind, how to make hard decisions, how to make life at home make sense, how to help their kids when they're faced with tough decisions like the gender identity, the sexuality thing.

Dads are the ones who really make that, who really help, who really influence their daughters in having a healthy sexuality and gender.

The other one is to be the stabilizer in the home.

We never talk about that.

Dads are the ones who can walk into chaos and they can diffuse the volatility.

They cause everybody to pause and then they regroup and finish the lesson.

I'll never forget, Dave, one of the things that you told me that I thought was amazing, and you can corroborate this or not, Rachel.