Dr. Melanie Hayes
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704 appearances
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first heard Dec 2019
last heard Feb 2022
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There was a part in your book that really struck home to me where you talked about how Asher had to apologize for who he was, not necessarily what he did.
Um, and I see this so much within our community that people just feel broken and wrong for just being their authentic selves.
And so I've moved sort of a a little bit radically away from trying to help people help their children fit into the
norm and more into saying, wait a minute, it why why do we always have to adapt to the norms of society?
It's time that society does a little adapting for us too.
And I I'm not saying that, you know, at all times people have to accommodate every aspect of being a neurodivergent person, but it doesn't seem right that people are masking and stressing and
Mm.
really suffering because the world's not willing to admit that these people need some sort of different accommodations in their life.
And so, you know, I'm just moving into this sort of radical self acceptance and uh helping communities figure out how to make the world work for them.
Yeah, well the book the specifically I was asked to write a book about twice exceptional adults.
So so being twice exceptional is definitely geared towards adults, um and and about all aspects of their life.
So, you know, there's chapters on work and housekeeping and personal care and romance and you know all of that sort of stuff.
So I tried to
to cover all the aspects of being a twice exceptional adult with autism.
Um, and but I do I do in my regular work still do a lot of activism for children too, because I think that's where it starts.
Uh you'll see, you know, in the book a lot of the stories talk about the trauma and damage happens when these kids are young and they're in school and having to uh try to adapt and being
not able to succeed either in friendships or academics or, you know, relationships with teachers.
And so they grow up feeling like there's something inherently wrong with them.
I worked from that angle too to try to help parents and teachers and professionals and the children themselves learn how to self-advocate and be proud of who they are and ask for what they need.
Um, but also this book is specifically around tackling some of the problems and and really it is kind of a love letter to the Tui aut autistic community to say, you know, I I embrace who you are in every aspect and I want you to feel proud of who you are and go out into the world and say, This is what I need, this is what I can contribute, and you need to recognize our community.
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