Dr. Molly Burrets

There was something really, really special about having all that time with my son, just the three of us, me and my son and my husband.

Still, I would go back and change it.

I would not want to have had to go through IVF.

Like, don't get me wrong.

I would never choose that.

But you do try to see the good.

And for me, part of the good was I had a lot of uninterrupted time with my son.

And now I know what it's like to have two kids.

And it's a lot.

And it's a big juggle.

And you don't get as much individual time with your second child as you do your first because you're having to take care of two of them.

So I just want you to like revel in being a mom.

I think that you be direct and honest with your friend about not knowing what to do

and not knowing what they need, and then assure them of your availability.

So that might sound something like this.

I know that there's no way that I can possibly empathize with what you're experiencing right now.

I don't know what it's like, and I can only imagine how hard it is, but I will never know.

And I don't know what to say and I don't know what to do that would be helpful.

But I want you to know that if there were something I could say or do, I would do it in a heartbeat.

And if you have feedback for me about what I can do, I want to hear it.