Dr. Orna Guralnik

Anything, but anything that will invite the person to really talk about what's really going on for them and who they are, rather than a set of attributes and a set of attributes, do they match?

Rarely, rarely, because I mean, it can happen.

But most of the time, you know, the difference between treating an individual and treating a couple is my patient.

When I see a couple, my patient is the relationship.

It's not the individual's.

which is, I don't know if it makes sense, but it's a very different orientation.

Right.

I'm not, not for one or the other.

It's like each individual is just like a function of,

it to the patient that is the relationship.

Right.

So I don't, it doesn't, I don't, it might seem sometimes like I'm siding with one, but I'm siding with the relationship.

I'm there to help the relationship get better.

It doesn't happen.

I mean, I know I can tell sometimes it doesn't happen so much on the series, but in my private practice, I can tell sometimes when one person feels like I'm not siding with them or like I don't like them, but it's usually kind of a temporary groove in the process and then it goes back.

I mean, if people really feel like I don't like them, it's not going to work.

Right.

You don't want to be in...

in a therapeutic situation where you feel like your therapist doesn't like you, that is not a good space.

I'm sure.