Dr Paul Eastwick
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first heard Feb 2026
last heard 22 Jun
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Hot people can be terrible partners.
On average, if there's if there's new data out there, I'd love to see that.
But that's what we've seen for for a long time there.
But on the mismatch, I think that the way that I can help this land for people is to remind them that when a relationship has actually formed, these two people are in this eight and this five are genuinely in a relationship together.
What ends up happening is that in order to sustain any kind of relationship, a whole bunch of motivated biases have to come online.
OK, if they don't come online, the relationship is not going to last.
But this always needs to happen.
Those biases include things like, what the hell do these other people know about our relationship?
Yeah, like, okay, you're not as attractive as my last boyfriend.
You know what?
He was, you know, terrible in all these ways.
But I can tell you I love you for reasons X, Y, Z, okay?
Now, are these reasons real?
Are they not real?
It doesn't matter if the person believes it.
Like, that's the nature of motivated reasoning, right?
So a lot of that has to do with how we defend against alternatives as well.
So people seem to be able to defend against those kinds of threats, the things you're describing, regardless of the level of mate value mismatch.
I get it.
Like if somebody's an eight and they're paired with a five, it seems like they've probably got more people coming up to them, more people thinking that they might be eager to trade up.
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