Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

This is so key, Mel. Exactly. And that's why I brought up your book, right? Because it's a key theme that I got from that book that I think totally applies here. I couldn't tolerate something, you know, me or someone not being there for my dad to meet his every needs, right? But it's ridiculous. It's utterly ridiculous, right?

This is so key, Mel. Exactly. And that's why I brought up your book, right? Because it's a key theme that I got from that book that I think totally applies here. I couldn't tolerate something, you know, me or someone not being there for my dad to meet his every needs, right? But it's ridiculous. It's utterly ridiculous, right?

I would argue that I cared just as much for my mother as I did for my father, but in a completely different way. I practice self-care. I will do these things for my own health. I will also, the truth be known, like... If, for whatever reason, I can't do something, I'm not gonna kill myself like I used to to get it done. I'm like, actually, you know what? On balance, it's okay.

I would argue that I cared just as much for my mother as I did for my father, but in a completely different way. I practice self-care. I will do these things for my own health. I will also, the truth be known, like... If, for whatever reason, I can't do something, I'm not gonna kill myself like I used to to get it done. I'm like, actually, you know what? On balance, it's okay.

I would argue that I cared just as much for my mother as I did for my father, but in a completely different way. I practice self-care. I will do these things for my own health. I will also, the truth be known, like... If, for whatever reason, I can't do something, I'm not gonna kill myself like I used to to get it done. I'm like, actually, you know what? On balance, it's okay.

I can't meet every need for my mom anymore, okay? It's okay if sometimes she wants me around and I can't be there. That's okay, right? And it's okay to come round and see her disappointed, okay? That's okay. And the funny thing is, I would almost argue that I'm caring for my mum in a much better way. When I'm around that, I'm not tired. I've got the energy. I've given myself five minutes each day.

I can't meet every need for my mom anymore, okay? It's okay if sometimes she wants me around and I can't be there. That's okay, right? And it's okay to come round and see her disappointed, okay? That's okay. And the funny thing is, I would almost argue that I'm caring for my mum in a much better way. When I'm around that, I'm not tired. I've got the energy. I've given myself five minutes each day.

I can't meet every need for my mom anymore, okay? It's okay if sometimes she wants me around and I can't be there. That's okay, right? And it's okay to come round and see her disappointed, okay? That's okay. And the funny thing is, I would almost argue that I'm caring for my mum in a much better way. When I'm around that, I'm not tired. I've got the energy. I've given myself five minutes each day.

And then there's another powerful story at the start of chapter one, where, you know, I took him at my dad's funeral, Mel. And I remember I had back pain for years, chronic back pain. And I saw this amazing musculoskeletal expert who helped it like 70, 80% for sure. But there was still this niggling tightness. And I can still remember, Mel, 2013, I'm at my dad's funeral. I'm in my best suit.

And then there's another powerful story at the start of chapter one, where, you know, I took him at my dad's funeral, Mel. And I remember I had back pain for years, chronic back pain. And I saw this amazing musculoskeletal expert who helped it like 70, 80% for sure. But there was still this niggling tightness. And I can still remember, Mel, 2013, I'm at my dad's funeral. I'm in my best suit.

And then there's another powerful story at the start of chapter one, where, you know, I took him at my dad's funeral, Mel. And I remember I had back pain for years, chronic back pain. And I saw this amazing musculoskeletal expert who helped it like 70, 80% for sure. But there was still this niggling tightness. And I can still remember, Mel, 2013, I'm at my dad's funeral. I'm in my best suit.

You know, we've just had the ceremony. And I can still remember being at Manchester Crematorium, watching the body go into the flames. And the tightness of my right back just vanished. And I second guessed myself. I said, did that just happen? I know that happens, right? And what I've realized, because I've read for years about how the body stores emotions. Of course.

You know, we've just had the ceremony. And I can still remember being at Manchester Crematorium, watching the body go into the flames. And the tightness of my right back just vanished. And I second guessed myself. I said, did that just happen? I know that happens, right? And what I've realized, because I've read for years about how the body stores emotions. Of course.

You know, we've just had the ceremony. And I can still remember being at Manchester Crematorium, watching the body go into the flames. And the tightness of my right back just vanished. And I second guessed myself. I said, did that just happen? I know that happens, right? And what I've realized, because I've read for years about how the body stores emotions. Of course.

But that's the first time I truly got it. I got it. I was like, oh my God. the weight, the pressure that I put on myself, that I'm the one who's responsible for my dad's wellbeing, even though it was dad who was sleep deprived for 30 years, chronically stressed, you know, didn't take his holidays, somehow it's my responsibility, that was giving me back ache.

But that's the first time I truly got it. I got it. I was like, oh my God. the weight, the pressure that I put on myself, that I'm the one who's responsible for my dad's wellbeing, even though it was dad who was sleep deprived for 30 years, chronically stressed, you know, didn't take his holidays, somehow it's my responsibility, that was giving me back ache.

But that's the first time I truly got it. I got it. I was like, oh my God. the weight, the pressure that I put on myself, that I'm the one who's responsible for my dad's wellbeing, even though it was dad who was sleep deprived for 30 years, chronically stressed, you know, didn't take his holidays, somehow it's my responsibility, that was giving me back ache.

It's absolutely crazy, Mel, to realize that I needed to see my dad's flesh and blood being burnt for my body, for my subconscious to finally realize, oh, it's not on you anymore. That back pain was the weight of expectation I put on myself to look after him.

It's absolutely crazy, Mel, to realize that I needed to see my dad's flesh and blood being burnt for my body, for my subconscious to finally realize, oh, it's not on you anymore. That back pain was the weight of expectation I put on myself to look after him.

It's absolutely crazy, Mel, to realize that I needed to see my dad's flesh and blood being burnt for my body, for my subconscious to finally realize, oh, it's not on you anymore. That back pain was the weight of expectation I put on myself to look after him.