Dr. Robert Glover

It fits nice guy logic.

So I actually teach, I have a whole class I call Positive Emotional Tension.

The basic premise is that women have to experience emotional tension with a man to be attracted to him, aroused by him, and stay attached over time.

Unfortunately, most men, but especially nice guys, do not like emotional tension, especially in relationship.

We want everything smooth and calm and predictable.

And so while the nice guy is trying to keep everything smooth and calm and predictable, there's no emotional tension to turn your crank.

If you're excited, go, hmm, yeah, he's interesting.

And so I tell guys, it doesn't matter to women.

That's a generalization.

It doesn't matter if it's what I call negative emotional tension or positive emotional tension.

Positive emotional tension typically feels good to everybody.

Negative emotional tension usually feels bad to the guy.

The woman doesn't care.

You know, you can slam cabinets.

You can give the silent treatment.

You can scream.

I mean, that feels fine.

For most women, they don't care.

But for guys, nice guys, no, no, no, I got to fix that.

Got to fix that.