Dr. Robert Glover

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Habits and Hustle · Episode 483: Dr. Robert Glover: Why Nice Guys Finish Last (And What Women Really Want Instead) · 9 Sep 2025 podcast

Why do I always pick the jerks?

You know, I think I finally found a good guy, but I don't want him.

You know, I should want him.

So you'll probably feel that.

And

You'll also probably often feel a certain amount of emotional indebtedness in that he's going to be trying to do so many things for you that you never feel like you get a chance to like do anything for him or return a favor or surprise him because he'll turn around and do something right back for you again.

Because nice guys are terrible receivers and we operate with what I call covert contracts.

If I just give you all these things, you'll appreciate me.

You'll love me.

You'll want to take your clothes off even though you're not turned on by me.

And then after we do enough of that, and maybe you don't appreciate me enough, or don't take your clothes off, or don't take them off enough, all that resentment I've got that I kept my end of the contract, you haven't kept your end, and then that's where the passive-aggressive, the victim pukes come out.

For a woman, if, again, if he just seems too good to be true and he does so many nice things for you above and beyond, wanting to fix things for you, plan trips for you, take you on expensive dates early on, you know, all that stuff, you're just going, why is he trying so hard?

Let's just get to know each other.

So that's a bad sign.

Not a good thing.

Now, again, you're going to question in your mind, well, you know...

All the other jerks I've been with, I knew right off they weren't good, but I was so turned on by them.

This guy seems like such a nice guy.

You'll probably question there's something wrong with you.

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