Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

Great.

That's your castle in the cloud.

What do we need to establish to make that happen?

And that's what we're really saying is your values.

And what blocks you from getting to your values?

Usually your trauma.

Usually what you learned or the fact that your brain just wants to replicate your childhood.

But once you know it, once you say that, that's the image, that's the shining goal.

Great.

Then let's just get to that castle in the cloud.

So in the book, I talk about the trauma app, which is this idea that in a moment of trauma, your brain creates if-then rules.

Sometimes the if-then rules are, just like dad, I will yell whenever I feel a certain amount of stress.

Or just like dad, I will criticize everybody around me because I can't ever be to blame.

It's too threatening for me to be to blame, so I have to look for who to blame, right?

Yeah.

That's your trauma app.

And think of an app on your phone, right?

In an app on your phone, there's permissions, right?

And what you do is you go to that app on your phone and you deselect its permission.

So in your brain, you say trauma app today is going to be stressful.