Dr. Ross Greene

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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children · TPP 081: How to Parent Angry and Explosive Children, with Dr. Ross Greene · 31 Oct 2017 podcast

And when we are placing those expectations on kids, they tend to exhibit their challenging behavior.

In in uh the collaborative and proactive solutions model, unmet expectations are referred to as unsolved problems.

And the goal of helping a kid like this and his caregivers is to first

figure out what the kids lagging skills are so that we have the right lenses on and so that we stop saying things like attention seeking, manipulative, coercive, unmotivated, limit testing and start

seeing the kid through the prism of lagging skills, and also identify what expectations the kid is having difficulty meeting.

Once again those are called unsolved problems.

Uh what we find is that helps people get organized, decide what their priorities are, what problems they want to solve now, what problems they're not gonna solve now, that they're gonna set aside.

And then uh we help caregivers start solving problems with kids, but we have them do it in a way uh collaboratively instead of unilaterally and proactively instead of emergently.

That we find works a whole lot better.

And the whole collaborative piece means that uh the caregivers aren't on their own, they aren't the Lone Ranger.

Uh, they've got a partner, the kid.

And this is how kids learn a lot of the skills that they're lacking.

It's how we engage kids in solving the problems that affect their lives.

It's how we improve relationships, it's how we improve communications, and it's how we significantly reduce challenging behavior.

Any problem that is solved is not going to cause challenging behavior.

It's only the unsolved ones that cause challenging behavior.

It uh the the changing of lenses is a huge part of this model because um, you know, a lot of people focus on behavior instead of the problems that are causing that behavior.

They focus on modifying the behavior instead of on s solving the problems that are causing those behaviors.

That is a very, very big shift for a lot of people.

But we've also been

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