Dr. Ryan Martin

You know, like I've just gotten so agitated. Yeah. What happens to anger if we don't process it? And then how can you process it properly? Like, like what's a legitimate way to process it? That's realistic.

You know, like I've just gotten so agitated. Yeah. What happens to anger if we don't process it? And then how can you process it properly? Like, like what's a legitimate way to process it? That's realistic.

You know, like I've just gotten so agitated. Yeah. What happens to anger if we don't process it? And then how can you process it properly? Like, like what's a legitimate way to process it? That's realistic.

Well, can we start with some of the illegitimate ways? Okay.

Well, can we start with some of the illegitimate ways? Okay.

Well, can we start with some of the illegitimate ways? Okay.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And I say that because it connects to something you just said, which is, um, you know, wanting, because people want it out of their body. And it feels like – and so we've been literally for thousands of years, people have been talking about catharsis as a way of ridding our body of anger and thinking of ourselves almost like pressure cookers.

And I say that because it connects to something you just said, which is, um, you know, wanting, because people want it out of their body. And it feels like – and so we've been literally for thousands of years, people have been talking about catharsis as a way of ridding our body of anger and thinking of ourselves almost like pressure cookers.

And I say that because it connects to something you just said, which is, um, you know, wanting, because people want it out of their body. And it feels like – and so we've been literally for thousands of years, people have been talking about catharsis as a way of ridding our body of anger and thinking of ourselves almost like pressure cookers.

Like if we don't open up the valve and release this anger, we'll blow up, right? And so that's where a lot of these approaches like if you've ever heard of a rage room or like – you know, people punching a punching bag or hitting the gym or things like that, that's where those approaches come from, is this idea that we gotta let that out.

Like if we don't open up the valve and release this anger, we'll blow up, right? And so that's where a lot of these approaches like if you've ever heard of a rage room or like – you know, people punching a punching bag or hitting the gym or things like that, that's where those approaches come from, is this idea that we gotta let that out.

Like if we don't open up the valve and release this anger, we'll blow up, right? And so that's where a lot of these approaches like if you've ever heard of a rage room or like – you know, people punching a punching bag or hitting the gym or things like that, that's where those approaches come from, is this idea that we gotta let that out.

And now here's the thing, and people are gonna throw rocks when I say this, but all of the research that we have on catharsis tells us it doesn't work. Like rage, actions of getting it out physically? That it doesn't work. It feels good at the time. And so people think, well, because it feels good, it must be good for me. It must help. But what we find is two things.

And now here's the thing, and people are gonna throw rocks when I say this, but all of the research that we have on catharsis tells us it doesn't work. Like rage, actions of getting it out physically? That it doesn't work. It feels good at the time. And so people think, well, because it feels good, it must be good for me. It must help. But what we find is two things.

And now here's the thing, and people are gonna throw rocks when I say this, but all of the research that we have on catharsis tells us it doesn't work. Like rage, actions of getting it out physically? That it doesn't work. It feels good at the time. And so people think, well, because it feels good, it must be good for me. It must help. But what we find is two things.

First, over time, the people who use that as their mechanism stay angry and get angrier over time. We also find that like right after, like moments after they did the study, and this is like 50 years old, right? So we've known for a long time. They did the study where they provoked people in the lab.

First, over time, the people who use that as their mechanism stay angry and get angrier over time. We also find that like right after, like moments after they did the study, and this is like 50 years old, right? So we've known for a long time. They did the study where they provoked people in the lab.