Dr. Ryan Martin

have a sense for where it's coming from understand like its root causes be able to critically evaluate those root causes and then know what to do with it right and i mean and that's a that's a level of sophistication that i don't think frankly most people are capable of but it's because we haven't given them the space or the tools to do that over their lifetime and i think we're way better than at this as a society now than we were when you and i were kids

We're way better at trying to provide those tools to kids. But it comes with people being able to have those conversations to say, hey, let's talk about what you're feeling right now. Not in necessarily a judgment or punishy way like, hey, you just got real mad. You hit your brother. Let's let's have a conversation about that. Let's talk about better ways to handle that.

We're way better at trying to provide those tools to kids. But it comes with people being able to have those conversations to say, hey, let's talk about what you're feeling right now. Not in necessarily a judgment or punishy way like, hey, you just got real mad. You hit your brother. Let's let's have a conversation about that. Let's talk about better ways to handle that.

We're way better at trying to provide those tools to kids. But it comes with people being able to have those conversations to say, hey, let's talk about what you're feeling right now. Not in necessarily a judgment or punishy way like, hey, you just got real mad. You hit your brother. Let's let's have a conversation about that. Let's talk about better ways to handle that.

Let's make sure we make up for what we did. So it's not like it's consequence free. People oftentimes accuse me of being sort of wimpy and like, hey, you're you're letting your kids walk all over you. They got to get punished or whatever. It's not that it's consequence-free. It's like, no, we're going to deal with those feelings and try and figure out sort of the best way to handle it.

Let's make sure we make up for what we did. So it's not like it's consequence free. People oftentimes accuse me of being sort of wimpy and like, hey, you're you're letting your kids walk all over you. They got to get punished or whatever. It's not that it's consequence-free. It's like, no, we're going to deal with those feelings and try and figure out sort of the best way to handle it.

Let's make sure we make up for what we did. So it's not like it's consequence free. People oftentimes accuse me of being sort of wimpy and like, hey, you're you're letting your kids walk all over you. They got to get punished or whatever. It's not that it's consequence-free. It's like, no, we're going to deal with those feelings and try and figure out sort of the best way to handle it.

And yeah, that helps them develop that emotional resilience going forward.

And yeah, that helps them develop that emotional resilience going forward.

And yeah, that helps them develop that emotional resilience going forward.

Yeah. At least having some emotional understanding of yourself. Yep. But how do you then like put the cap on it where you're like, yeah, it's okay if my kid is, you know, like, um, we're like, how do we not turn into one of these societies where it's just like, oh, I don't feel like going to work today. So I'm not going to go. Yeah. You know, like that's nobody ever feels like going away.

Yeah. At least having some emotional understanding of yourself. Yep. But how do you then like put the cap on it where you're like, yeah, it's okay if my kid is, you know, like, um, we're like, how do we not turn into one of these societies where it's just like, oh, I don't feel like going to work today. So I'm not going to go. Yeah. You know, like that's nobody ever feels like going away.

Yeah. At least having some emotional understanding of yourself. Yep. But how do you then like put the cap on it where you're like, yeah, it's okay if my kid is, you know, like, um, we're like, how do we not turn into one of these societies where it's just like, oh, I don't feel like going to work today. So I'm not going to go. Yeah. You know, like that's nobody ever feels like going away.

That's the first thing I should tell you when you ever go to school. Yeah. One day you're going to go to work and nobody's going to feel like it. That should be the first thing that they teach us.

That's the first thing I should tell you when you ever go to school. Yeah. One day you're going to go to work and nobody's going to feel like it. That should be the first thing that they teach us.

That's the first thing I should tell you when you ever go to school. Yeah. One day you're going to go to work and nobody's going to feel like it. That should be the first thing that they teach us.

yeah no I mean it's true like the message also has to be that your emotions alone aren't necessarily reason not to do something yeah you know I mean that's the you know I have two kids both of them are very very awesome in different ways but the The one is he's a performer, he's a dancer, and he's in a lot of musicals and things like that.

yeah no I mean it's true like the message also has to be that your emotions alone aren't necessarily reason not to do something yeah you know I mean that's the you know I have two kids both of them are very very awesome in different ways but the The one is he's a performer, he's a dancer, and he's in a lot of musicals and things like that.

yeah no I mean it's true like the message also has to be that your emotions alone aren't necessarily reason not to do something yeah you know I mean that's the you know I have two kids both of them are very very awesome in different ways but the The one is he's a performer, he's a dancer, and he's in a lot of musicals and things like that.

And one of the things that I can say about him is people often talk about how brave he is, and he is. But I know him well enough to know that he gets real anxious about performing and those things. He's feeling that fear. It's not that he's not scared. It's that he knows how to do things anyways. And that's where you want people to get.