Dr. Ryan Martin

Was there more you want to say? Sorry.

No, I mean, I think that sort of covers it. But I think the big thing is there are lots and lots of consequences to unhealthy anger, right? There's also lots of good things we can do with it, right? There's lots of ways that we can turn our anger into those positive ways.

No, I mean, I think that sort of covers it. But I think the big thing is there are lots and lots of consequences to unhealthy anger, right? There's also lots of good things we can do with it, right? There's lots of ways that we can turn our anger into those positive ways.

No, I mean, I think that sort of covers it. But I think the big thing is there are lots and lots of consequences to unhealthy anger, right? There's also lots of good things we can do with it, right? There's lots of ways that we can turn our anger into those positive ways.

And so back to when people think about, okay, what's the impact of this on me and on those people around me is to really sort of evaluate what the outcome is.

And so back to when people think about, okay, what's the impact of this on me and on those people around me is to really sort of evaluate what the outcome is.

And so back to when people think about, okay, what's the impact of this on me and on those people around me is to really sort of evaluate what the outcome is.

Right. So if you can take a moment to evaluate what the outcome is going to be like, what's going to happen right now, I'm upset. So if I act on it, then I'm going to have to apologize later. I'm going to be probably then I'm going to be bummed out at myself. So now right now I'm upset at somebody else and maybe even at myself. And then later I'm going to be up to apologize somebody and probably.

Right. So if you can take a moment to evaluate what the outcome is going to be like, what's going to happen right now, I'm upset. So if I act on it, then I'm going to have to apologize later. I'm going to be probably then I'm going to be bummed out at myself. So now right now I'm upset at somebody else and maybe even at myself. And then later I'm going to be up to apologize somebody and probably.

Right. So if you can take a moment to evaluate what the outcome is going to be like, what's going to happen right now, I'm upset. So if I act on it, then I'm going to have to apologize later. I'm going to be probably then I'm going to be bummed out at myself. So now right now I'm upset at somebody else and maybe even at myself. And then later I'm going to be up to apologize somebody and probably.

then be a little bit disheartened in myself for my actions. So it's like, what do I really want? Or do I just want things to kind of be chill?

then be a little bit disheartened in myself for my actions. So it's like, what do I really want? Or do I just want things to kind of be chill?

then be a little bit disheartened in myself for my actions. So it's like, what do I really want? Or do I just want things to kind of be chill?

I love what you're saying right now, because to me, one of the best lessons people can learn about anger or any emotion is, when I'm feeling it, I need to stop for a second and think about what my goals are. What's the thing that I, where do I want this situation to end?

I love what you're saying right now, because to me, one of the best lessons people can learn about anger or any emotion is, when I'm feeling it, I need to stop for a second and think about what my goals are. What's the thing that I, where do I want this situation to end?

I love what you're saying right now, because to me, one of the best lessons people can learn about anger or any emotion is, when I'm feeling it, I need to stop for a second and think about what my goals are. What's the thing that I, where do I want this situation to end?

And sometimes that is like, you know, if I get mad on my way to work because somebody cut me off, right now I could drive them off the road and get in a fight with them, but does that get me to work on time, right? In the way I want, like my goal is to get to my destination safely, right? And so I should focus on that. And anything else that I try and do in that moment doesn't serve me.

And sometimes that is like, you know, if I get mad on my way to work because somebody cut me off, right now I could drive them off the road and get in a fight with them, but does that get me to work on time, right? In the way I want, like my goal is to get to my destination safely, right? And so I should focus on that. And anything else that I try and do in that moment doesn't serve me.

And sometimes that is like, you know, if I get mad on my way to work because somebody cut me off, right now I could drive them off the road and get in a fight with them, but does that get me to work on time, right? In the way I want, like my goal is to get to my destination safely, right? And so I should focus on that. And anything else that I try and do in that moment doesn't serve me.

And I mean, I use an exaggerated example, but even giving them the finger or honking at them, all those things just serve to distract me from my actual goal. And we can think about that in a gajillion different other places, right?