Dr. Ryan Martin

I mean, you know, and that there's no reason why in your 40s or 50s you can't start to deal with

I mean, you know, and that there's no reason why in your 40s or 50s you can't start to deal with

I mean, you know, and that there's no reason why in your 40s or 50s you can't start to deal with

some of the stuff that you're you were mad about um still from childhood it might be harder and i also think we have to be honest about what the what the outcome is going to be right i mean i mean we have to recognize that some of those things i guess think about what dealing with it looks like because i can't it's a good point you brought it up earlier with the other topic is like follow think it um what outcome you want to have what was the other one

some of the stuff that you're you were mad about um still from childhood it might be harder and i also think we have to be honest about what the what the outcome is going to be right i mean i mean we have to recognize that some of those things i guess think about what dealing with it looks like because i can't it's a good point you brought it up earlier with the other topic is like follow think it um what outcome you want to have what was the other one

some of the stuff that you're you were mad about um still from childhood it might be harder and i also think we have to be honest about what the what the outcome is going to be right i mean i mean we have to recognize that some of those things i guess think about what dealing with it looks like because i can't it's a good point you brought it up earlier with the other topic is like follow think it um what outcome you want to have what was the other one

Yeah, no, it's like what are your goals here? And I think the thing is like when you're – I'm 48 years old, right? When you're 48, you might not be able to fix the bad stuff that happened that you're still frustrated by. So that can't be the goal. But maybe it is to forgive. Maybe it's to better understand where – if it is a person who wronged you, where that person was coming from.

Yeah, no, it's like what are your goals here? And I think the thing is like when you're – I'm 48 years old, right? When you're 48, you might not be able to fix the bad stuff that happened that you're still frustrated by. So that can't be the goal. But maybe it is to forgive. Maybe it's to better understand where – if it is a person who wronged you, where that person was coming from.

Yeah, no, it's like what are your goals here? And I think the thing is like when you're – I'm 48 years old, right? When you're 48, you might not be able to fix the bad stuff that happened that you're still frustrated by. So that can't be the goal. But maybe it is to forgive. Maybe it's to better understand where – if it is a person who wronged you, where that person was coming from.

I mean those are all –

I mean those are all –

I mean those are all –

things that we can try and process ways we can try and deal with maybe it's just to forgive ourselves for for you know not handling it in a different way man forgive ourselves for not being able to forgive people even yeah that sounds crazy right right because that sometimes it's like that's crazy i never thought about that sometimes it's not even that i'm upset anymore as much that i can't forgive the person it's like i start to get upset at myself because i can't

things that we can try and process ways we can try and deal with maybe it's just to forgive ourselves for for you know not handling it in a different way man forgive ourselves for not being able to forgive people even yeah that sounds crazy right right because that sometimes it's like that's crazy i never thought about that sometimes it's not even that i'm upset anymore as much that i can't forgive the person it's like i start to get upset at myself because i can't

things that we can try and process ways we can try and deal with maybe it's just to forgive ourselves for for you know not handling it in a different way man forgive ourselves for not being able to forgive people even yeah that sounds crazy right right because that sometimes it's like that's crazy i never thought about that sometimes it's not even that i'm upset anymore as much that i can't forgive the person it's like i start to get upset at myself because i can't

Forgive the person. So I'm not upset at the person anymore. Right. I'm just upset at me because I'm having trouble forgiving. Is that crazy?

Forgive the person. So I'm not upset at the person anymore. Right. I'm just upset at me because I'm having trouble forgiving. Is that crazy?

Forgive the person. So I'm not upset at the person anymore. Right. I'm just upset at me because I'm having trouble forgiving. Is that crazy?

Yeah. No, I mean, not crazy. That's really interesting and insightful, right? I'm still mad at this person. I feel like I shouldn't be, and I'm struggling. Now I'm mad at me because I can't forgive them.

Yeah. No, I mean, not crazy. That's really interesting and insightful, right? I'm still mad at this person. I feel like I shouldn't be, and I'm struggling. Now I'm mad at me because I can't forgive them.