Dr. Ryan Martin

Why, you know, if we're watching TV and a kid –

react some right just so at least that they can have their own head like okay this is what happens when this happens yeah this is what I look like when it happens this is where I can start to see in somebody else what's going on and then you'll recognize it in yourself and at least have some sort of you'll be the conductor in some way as much as you can yep maybe some of the outcomes if not some of the origins of the feelings

react some right just so at least that they can have their own head like okay this is what happens when this happens yeah this is what I look like when it happens this is where I can start to see in somebody else what's going on and then you'll recognize it in yourself and at least have some sort of you'll be the conductor in some way as much as you can yep maybe some of the outcomes if not some of the origins of the feelings

react some right just so at least that they can have their own head like okay this is what happens when this happens yeah this is what I look like when it happens this is where I can start to see in somebody else what's going on and then you'll recognize it in yourself and at least have some sort of you'll be the conductor in some way as much as you can yep maybe some of the outcomes if not some of the origins of the feelings

Yeah, and then you can even talk through, you know, what are some options for him now, right? You know, this kid's just had this, just is feeling really hurt. What can he or she do to deal with those feelings of hurt? And, I mean, I think those are all, like, good, healthy ways.

Yeah, and then you can even talk through, you know, what are some options for him now, right? You know, this kid's just had this, just is feeling really hurt. What can he or she do to deal with those feelings of hurt? And, I mean, I think those are all, like, good, healthy ways.

Yeah, and then you can even talk through, you know, what are some options for him now, right? You know, this kid's just had this, just is feeling really hurt. What can he or she do to deal with those feelings of hurt? And, I mean, I think those are all, like, good, healthy ways.

But I think it starts with wanting to make sure people are having those conversations, that people are really understanding it. Because part of what happens, too, is that people can realize that, you know, the— We like to believe, and I've even been saying, look, your feelings are one of the ways your brain tells you what's going on, what you're experiencing.

But I think it starts with wanting to make sure people are having those conversations, that people are really understanding it. Because part of what happens, too, is that people can realize that, you know, the— We like to believe, and I've even been saying, look, your feelings are one of the ways your brain tells you what's going on, what you're experiencing.

But I think it starts with wanting to make sure people are having those conversations, that people are really understanding it. Because part of what happens, too, is that people can realize that, you know, the— We like to believe, and I've even been saying, look, your feelings are one of the ways your brain tells you what's going on, what you're experiencing.

That doesn't necessarily mean that they're rooted in logic or reality or that they're even really valid, right? We can be angry over a misunderstanding. We can be scared over something that's not really dangerous. And the feelings are real, right? And we shouldn't minimize that, but we should take some time to like unpack them and talk about like, what, what is, what's going on?

That doesn't necessarily mean that they're rooted in logic or reality or that they're even really valid, right? We can be angry over a misunderstanding. We can be scared over something that's not really dangerous. And the feelings are real, right? And we shouldn't minimize that, but we should take some time to like unpack them and talk about like, what, what is, what's going on?

That doesn't necessarily mean that they're rooted in logic or reality or that they're even really valid, right? We can be angry over a misunderstanding. We can be scared over something that's not really dangerous. And the feelings are real, right? And we shouldn't minimize that, but we should take some time to like unpack them and talk about like, what, what is, what's going on?

Why, why are you feeling this way?

Why, why are you feeling this way?

Why, why are you feeling this way?

I think that kind of stuff is important, at least because I think for myself a long time, I didn't know a lot of feelings I was even having. I didn't know, I only knew a couple, like, I remember like Yeah, like certain things would go on and I wouldn't really have any feelings about it. And I was like, man, I never really had a lot of feelings.

I think that kind of stuff is important, at least because I think for myself a long time, I didn't know a lot of feelings I was even having. I didn't know, I only knew a couple, like, I remember like Yeah, like certain things would go on and I wouldn't really have any feelings about it. And I was like, man, I never really had a lot of feelings.

I think that kind of stuff is important, at least because I think for myself a long time, I didn't know a lot of feelings I was even having. I didn't know, I only knew a couple, like, I remember like Yeah, like certain things would go on and I wouldn't really have any feelings about it. And I was like, man, I never really had a lot of feelings.

So I think sometimes talking with your kids like, oh, this is a feeling. That's what that is. This is what's going on. Because otherwise you can just think you've been bonkers as a child, you know? Like if somebody doesn't tell you kind of what's happening with you.