Dr. Stuart Ablon

You got it. So consequences in essence don't work for the people to whom they are most applied is basically what we're saying.

You got it. So consequences in essence don't work for the people to whom they are most applied is basically what we're saying.

Absolutely. And we should be clear, Mel. None of these skills that I'm talking about are correlated with intelligence, okay? So this is not like if you're struggling with any of these skills, just like dyslexia. If you can't decode words, that doesn't make you not smart. In fact, some of the most brilliant, innovative, interesting people had a hard time decoding words.

Absolutely. And we should be clear, Mel. None of these skills that I'm talking about are correlated with intelligence, okay? So this is not like if you're struggling with any of these skills, just like dyslexia. If you can't decode words, that doesn't make you not smart. In fact, some of the most brilliant, innovative, interesting people had a hard time decoding words.

Absolutely. And we should be clear, Mel. None of these skills that I'm talking about are correlated with intelligence, okay? So this is not like if you're struggling with any of these skills, just like dyslexia. If you can't decode words, that doesn't make you not smart. In fact, some of the most brilliant, innovative, interesting people had a hard time decoding words.

Their brains worked a little differently. Same is true with these skills. You can have poor language and communication skills, but be brilliant. You can have poor attention and working memory, emotion and self-regulation skills. And we still got two categories to go through. You can struggle with those skills and be brilliant.

Their brains worked a little differently. Same is true with these skills. You can have poor language and communication skills, but be brilliant. You can have poor attention and working memory, emotion and self-regulation skills. And we still got two categories to go through. You can struggle with those skills and be brilliant.

Their brains worked a little differently. Same is true with these skills. You can have poor language and communication skills, but be brilliant. You can have poor attention and working memory, emotion and self-regulation skills. And we still got two categories to go through. You can struggle with those skills and be brilliant.

I remember when I first presented these ideas at one of the prisons we were working with, one of the senior guards there that everybody sort of respected the most. He said after, he said, this is really interesting. He said, you know, I I think this might apply to like, say, 10%, maybe 5% of the young people we have here. But the rest of them, they're actually criminals.

I remember when I first presented these ideas at one of the prisons we were working with, one of the senior guards there that everybody sort of respected the most. He said after, he said, this is really interesting. He said, you know, I I think this might apply to like, say, 10%, maybe 5% of the young people we have here. But the rest of them, they're actually criminals.

I remember when I first presented these ideas at one of the prisons we were working with, one of the senior guards there that everybody sort of respected the most. He said after, he said, this is really interesting. He said, you know, I I think this might apply to like, say, 10%, maybe 5% of the young people we have here. But the rest of them, they're actually criminals.

And what they lack is the motivation to not behave this way. And a couple of years into our work together, it was amazing when he was like, you know, Doc, got to tell you, I still think there might be a couple of like sociopaths here, but like 95 or more percent of these people here are struggling with the exact skills you're talking about.

And what they lack is the motivation to not behave this way. And a couple of years into our work together, it was amazing when he was like, you know, Doc, got to tell you, I still think there might be a couple of like sociopaths here, but like 95 or more percent of these people here are struggling with the exact skills you're talking about.

And what they lack is the motivation to not behave this way. And a couple of years into our work together, it was amazing when he was like, you know, Doc, got to tell you, I still think there might be a couple of like sociopaths here, but like 95 or more percent of these people here are struggling with the exact skills you're talking about.

Cognitive flexibility. Cognitive, fancy word for thinking. So we're talking about flexible thinking.

Cognitive flexibility. Cognitive, fancy word for thinking. So we're talking about flexible thinking.

Cognitive flexibility. Cognitive, fancy word for thinking. So we're talking about flexible thinking.

You know, there's a lot of people out there who struggle with flexible thinking. What I mean by that is that they tend to be more sort of rigid or concrete or literal or we call black and white in their thinking. It's sort of like all or none. Yeah. Yeah. And sort of the grays of the world are harder.

You know, there's a lot of people out there who struggle with flexible thinking. What I mean by that is that they tend to be more sort of rigid or concrete or literal or we call black and white in their thinking. It's sort of like all or none. Yeah. Yeah. And sort of the grays of the world are harder.

You know, there's a lot of people out there who struggle with flexible thinking. What I mean by that is that they tend to be more sort of rigid or concrete or literal or we call black and white in their thinking. It's sort of like all or none. Yeah. Yeah. And sort of the grays of the world are harder.