Dr. Stuart Ablon

You know, as kids, you can spot these kids because they're the kids who, if everything goes according to the rules, the routine, the structure, the template they had in their head, life is good. Yes. But any change, any unpredictability, ambiguity, uncertainty, entering a situation they don't know what it's going to look like, they don't have the template for, and sort of winging it.

You know, as kids, you can spot these kids because they're the kids who, if everything goes according to the rules, the routine, the structure, the template they had in their head, life is good. Yes. But any change, any unpredictability, ambiguity, uncertainty, entering a situation they don't know what it's going to look like, they don't have the template for, and sort of winging it.

You know, as kids, you can spot these kids because they're the kids who, if everything goes according to the rules, the routine, the structure, the template they had in their head, life is good. Yes. But any change, any unpredictability, ambiguity, uncertainty, entering a situation they don't know what it's going to look like, they don't have the template for, and sort of winging it.

So this is the thing. Kids' brains are very malleable. Yes. So you, you know, changeable. You can help them learn skills more easily. But sometimes people think that like once you're an adult, you know, you can't develop these skills. That's nonsense. You can change the adult brain. But as you're saying, it takes repetition and practice, but you can become a more flexible thinker.

So this is the thing. Kids' brains are very malleable. Yes. So you, you know, changeable. You can help them learn skills more easily. But sometimes people think that like once you're an adult, you know, you can't develop these skills. That's nonsense. You can change the adult brain. But as you're saying, it takes repetition and practice, but you can become a more flexible thinker.

So this is the thing. Kids' brains are very malleable. Yes. So you, you know, changeable. You can help them learn skills more easily. But sometimes people think that like once you're an adult, you know, you can't develop these skills. That's nonsense. You can change the adult brain. But as you're saying, it takes repetition and practice, but you can become a more flexible thinker.

Just like you can become better at regulating, controlling, managing your emotions. You can become better at using your language and communication skills. And this is the power of thinking skill, not will. Because if it's about skill, not will, skills can be built. And I have to say, I have never seen anyone at any age with any level of skill where they couldn't improve that skill incrementally.

Just like you can become better at regulating, controlling, managing your emotions. You can become better at using your language and communication skills. And this is the power of thinking skill, not will. Because if it's about skill, not will, skills can be built. And I have to say, I have never seen anyone at any age with any level of skill where they couldn't improve that skill incrementally.

Just like you can become better at regulating, controlling, managing your emotions. You can become better at using your language and communication skills. And this is the power of thinking skill, not will. Because if it's about skill, not will, skills can be built. And I have to say, I have never seen anyone at any age with any level of skill where they couldn't improve that skill incrementally.

So I'm talking about the most severe cases. There's always opportunity to improve our skills. Always.

So I'm talking about the most severe cases. There's always opportunity to improve our skills. Always.

So I'm talking about the most severe cases. There's always opportunity to improve our skills. Always.

The fifth is a big category, social thinking skills. And what does that mean? So it means all the types of skills that go into managing social interactions, like basic ones, like how do you start a conversation with somebody? How do you join a group of people who are doing something smoothly without sort of butting in or upsetting things?

The fifth is a big category, social thinking skills. And what does that mean? So it means all the types of skills that go into managing social interactions, like basic ones, like how do you start a conversation with somebody? How do you join a group of people who are doing something smoothly without sort of butting in or upsetting things?

The fifth is a big category, social thinking skills. And what does that mean? So it means all the types of skills that go into managing social interactions, like basic ones, like how do you start a conversation with somebody? How do you join a group of people who are doing something smoothly without sort of butting in or upsetting things?

To more subtle, complicated skills, like knowing how you come across, how your behavior impacts other people. I call it your feedback loop. which we are all so reliant on in the world. Basically, we do stuff and say stuff and look around and say like, how's it coming across? And we adjust our behavior if all's going well.

To more subtle, complicated skills, like knowing how you come across, how your behavior impacts other people. I call it your feedback loop. which we are all so reliant on in the world. Basically, we do stuff and say stuff and look around and say like, how's it coming across? And we adjust our behavior if all's going well.

To more subtle, complicated skills, like knowing how you come across, how your behavior impacts other people. I call it your feedback loop. which we are all so reliant on in the world. Basically, we do stuff and say stuff and look around and say like, how's it coming across? And we adjust our behavior if all's going well.

But some folks don't have a feedback loop or keep it open for a very short amount of time or misjudge the feedback. So, you know, those are more complicated skills and probably empathy. And perspective taking is one of the most complicated of all social thinking skills, you know, which is in essence, can you try to understand where somebody else is coming from?

But some folks don't have a feedback loop or keep it open for a very short amount of time or misjudge the feedback. So, you know, those are more complicated skills and probably empathy. And perspective taking is one of the most complicated of all social thinking skills, you know, which is in essence, can you try to understand where somebody else is coming from?