Dr. Stuart Ablon

And at the end of the day, you really only have three options for how to handle those. And just to be clear, we didn't create these in collaborative problem solving. We just put labels on them. Okay. We call them your three plans. Okay. Which is another word saying your options for how to handle a problem. You need a plan. What's your plan? Okay. Okay. There's only three. Okay.

And at the end of the day, you really only have three options for how to handle those. And just to be clear, we didn't create these in collaborative problem solving. We just put labels on them. Okay. We call them your three plans. Okay. Which is another word saying your options for how to handle a problem. You need a plan. What's your plan? Okay. Okay. There's only three. Okay.

We call them plan A, plan B, and plan C. So give me an example.

We call them plan A, plan B, and plan C. So give me an example.

We call them plan A, plan B, and plan C. So give me an example.

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It could be as simple as a kid not getting out of bed on time to get to school. Let's use that one. Or it could be much, much, much more complicated than that.

It could be as simple as a kid not getting out of bed on time to get to school. Let's use that one. Or it could be much, much, much more complicated than that.

It could be as simple as a kid not getting out of bed on time to get to school. Let's use that one. Or it could be much, much, much more complicated than that.

So you've got three options, okay? Plan A is when you decide to impose your will To try to make the person do what you want them to do.

So you've got three options, okay? Plan A is when you decide to impose your will To try to make the person do what you want them to do.

So you've got three options, okay? Plan A is when you decide to impose your will To try to make the person do what you want them to do.

I'm going to impose my will. Now, there are different ways you can try to impose your will. If the kid's small enough, you could physically try to impose your will by getting them out of bed. But the other way we try to impose our will is, no surprise, rewards and consequences, right? Either way, you're sort of leveraging power and control to try to make somebody do what you want them to do. Okay.

I'm going to impose my will. Now, there are different ways you can try to impose your will. If the kid's small enough, you could physically try to impose your will by getting them out of bed. But the other way we try to impose our will is, no surprise, rewards and consequences, right? Either way, you're sort of leveraging power and control to try to make somebody do what you want them to do. Okay.

I'm going to impose my will. Now, there are different ways you can try to impose your will. If the kid's small enough, you could physically try to impose your will by getting them out of bed. But the other way we try to impose our will is, no surprise, rewards and consequences, right? Either way, you're sort of leveraging power and control to try to make somebody do what you want them to do. Okay.

That's one option. Okay. Plan A. Okay. Second option, call it plan B. That's our code for collaborative problem solving.

That's one option. Okay. Plan A. Okay. Second option, call it plan B. That's our code for collaborative problem solving.

That's one option. Okay. Plan A. Okay. Second option, call it plan B. That's our code for collaborative problem solving.