Dr. Stuart Ablon

That's when you're going to collaborate to try to solve the problem, work together to try to solve the problem, and this is an important phrase, in a mutually satisfactory way. So you're going to work together to solve it in a way that works well for the both of you. Okay. And we're going to need to go into detail about that option. Okay. Third option.

That's when you're going to collaborate to try to solve the problem, work together to try to solve the problem, and this is an important phrase, in a mutually satisfactory way. So you're going to work together to solve it in a way that works well for the both of you. Okay. And we're going to need to go into detail about that option. Okay. Third option.

That's when you're going to collaborate to try to solve the problem, work together to try to solve the problem, and this is an important phrase, in a mutually satisfactory way. So you're going to work together to solve it in a way that works well for the both of you. Okay. And we're going to need to go into detail about that option. Okay. Third option.

plan C. Plan C is when you decide to drop it, drop your expectation, or in essence, solve the problem the way they want it solved. When they want it solved. Not forever, but just for now. And what's really important about that is it's a strategic choice. It is not giving in

plan C. Plan C is when you decide to drop it, drop your expectation, or in essence, solve the problem the way they want it solved. When they want it solved. Not forever, but just for now. And what's really important about that is it's a strategic choice. It is not giving in

plan C. Plan C is when you decide to drop it, drop your expectation, or in essence, solve the problem the way they want it solved. When they want it solved. Not forever, but just for now. And what's really important about that is it's a strategic choice. It is not giving in

Giving in, actually, most of the time is when you try to use plan A and make somebody do what you want them to do and they don't do it. And then you throw up your hands and say, fine, forget it. Right. That's failed plan A leading to bailing. Yes. Plan C is being strategic. Plan C is saying, you know what? We got like 10 problems to solve here. Can't solve them all at once.

Giving in, actually, most of the time is when you try to use plan A and make somebody do what you want them to do and they don't do it. And then you throw up your hands and say, fine, forget it. Right. That's failed plan A leading to bailing. Yes. Plan C is being strategic. Plan C is saying, you know what? We got like 10 problems to solve here. Can't solve them all at once.

Giving in, actually, most of the time is when you try to use plan A and make somebody do what you want them to do and they don't do it. And then you throw up your hands and say, fine, forget it. Right. That's failed plan A leading to bailing. Yes. Plan C is being strategic. Plan C is saying, you know what? We got like 10 problems to solve here. Can't solve them all at once.

I'm going to just drop this one for now.

I'm going to just drop this one for now.

I'm going to just drop this one for now.

So those are your three options. Impose your will, plan A. Collaborate to solve the problem, plan B. Drop it. Got it. Plan C. Okay. And the first thing I tell parents or anybody, this could be a manager in a workplace, is, all right, list out the problems you have, which with as much specificity as possible.

So those are your three options. Impose your will, plan A. Collaborate to solve the problem, plan B. Drop it. Got it. Plan C. Okay. And the first thing I tell parents or anybody, this could be a manager in a workplace, is, all right, list out the problems you have, which with as much specificity as possible.

So those are your three options. Impose your will, plan A. Collaborate to solve the problem, plan B. Drop it. Got it. Plan C. Okay. And the first thing I tell parents or anybody, this could be a manager in a workplace, is, all right, list out the problems you have, which with as much specificity as possible.

Be as specific as possible which problems you're talking about, like a kid won't get out of the bed, won't get out of bed, et cetera, okay? And just decide, how do you want to handle it? A, B, or C? And that should be informed by what you're trying to accomplish. That's basically step one. It is step one.

Be as specific as possible which problems you're talking about, like a kid won't get out of the bed, won't get out of bed, et cetera, okay? And just decide, how do you want to handle it? A, B, or C? And that should be informed by what you're trying to accomplish. That's basically step one. It is step one.

Be as specific as possible which problems you're talking about, like a kid won't get out of the bed, won't get out of bed, et cetera, okay? And just decide, how do you want to handle it? A, B, or C? And that should be informed by what you're trying to accomplish. That's basically step one. It is step one.

And it depends what you're trying to accomplish because plan A, imposing your will, it may get your expectation met. Right. But it might get very ugly on you. Right. It might harm the relationship. Yep. And there's no skills that are being developed by imposing your will upon another human. Okay? Yeah.

And it depends what you're trying to accomplish because plan A, imposing your will, it may get your expectation met. Right. But it might get very ugly on you. Right. It might harm the relationship. Yep. And there's no skills that are being developed by imposing your will upon another human. Okay? Yeah.