Dr. Stuart Ablon

It really involves any form of challenging or concerning behavior. I always go back to anything somebody's doing you don't want them to do or not doing you want them to do.

It really involves any form of challenging or concerning behavior. I always go back to anything somebody's doing you don't want them to do or not doing you want them to do.

We talked in depth about Plan A and Plan C. We didn't talk in depth about the most important plan, which is Plan B. What does that look like? So that's when you're collaborating to solve a problem together with a kid.

We talked in depth about Plan A and Plan C. We didn't talk in depth about the most important plan, which is Plan B. What does that look like? So that's when you're collaborating to solve a problem together with a kid.

We talked in depth about Plan A and Plan C. We didn't talk in depth about the most important plan, which is Plan B. What does that look like? So that's when you're collaborating to solve a problem together with a kid.

Absolutely. And so what you say to yourself, let's say the problem, the specific problem was that somebody you love is really struggling and not seeking help.

Absolutely. And so what you say to yourself, let's say the problem, the specific problem was that somebody you love is really struggling and not seeking help.

Absolutely. And so what you say to yourself, let's say the problem, the specific problem was that somebody you love is really struggling and not seeking help.

And again, that's a much more challenging one than perhaps a kid's not getting out of bed to go to school.

And again, that's a much more challenging one than perhaps a kid's not getting out of bed to go to school.

And again, that's a much more challenging one than perhaps a kid's not getting out of bed to go to school.

OK, am I going to try to impose my will and make them get treatment? Well, first of all, it's not going to work. OK, but it's going to have all those other downsides. Am I just going to drop it so that we're not having all this conflict? But of course, the problem's not solved. Or am I going to try to collaborate to solve the problem?

OK, am I going to try to impose my will and make them get treatment? Well, first of all, it's not going to work. OK, but it's going to have all those other downsides. Am I just going to drop it so that we're not having all this conflict? But of course, the problem's not solved. Or am I going to try to collaborate to solve the problem?

OK, am I going to try to impose my will and make them get treatment? Well, first of all, it's not going to work. OK, but it's going to have all those other downsides. Am I just going to drop it so that we're not having all this conflict? But of course, the problem's not solved. Or am I going to try to collaborate to solve the problem?

Because that option has you pursuing the thing you're worried about. trying to actually solve the problem so it won't keep rolling on, but there are other benefits. This is the only one of the three options where you're actually building that helping relationship I mentioned earlier that is the number one predictor of whether anybody's going to change their behavior anyways.

Because that option has you pursuing the thing you're worried about. trying to actually solve the problem so it won't keep rolling on, but there are other benefits. This is the only one of the three options where you're actually building that helping relationship I mentioned earlier that is the number one predictor of whether anybody's going to change their behavior anyways.

Because that option has you pursuing the thing you're worried about. trying to actually solve the problem so it won't keep rolling on, but there are other benefits. This is the only one of the three options where you're actually building that helping relationship I mentioned earlier that is the number one predictor of whether anybody's going to change their behavior anyways.

And here's perhaps my favorite thing about this, the ingredients to it, which we're about to talk about, if you just follow those ingredients, That's where the skills training happens. That's where people practice and develop their skills. Because this is going to seem really simple, but if somebody struggles with problem-solving skills, what's the best way to help them develop those skills?

And here's perhaps my favorite thing about this, the ingredients to it, which we're about to talk about, if you just follow those ingredients, That's where the skills training happens. That's where people practice and develop their skills. Because this is going to seem really simple, but if somebody struggles with problem-solving skills, what's the best way to help them develop those skills?

And here's perhaps my favorite thing about this, the ingredients to it, which we're about to talk about, if you just follow those ingredients, That's where the skills training happens. That's where people practice and develop their skills. Because this is going to seem really simple, but if somebody struggles with problem-solving skills, what's the best way to help them develop those skills?