Dr. Thema Bryant

Right? That it's not actually you miss them. It's you miss your idea of who you thought they were. Right? Yeah. And then, you know, when we talk about the aftermath, sometimes we create a story about why it happened because we want things to make sense.

Right? That it's not actually you miss them. It's you miss your idea of who you thought they were. Right? Yeah. And then, you know, when we talk about the aftermath, sometimes we create a story about why it happened because we want things to make sense.

Right? That it's not actually you miss them. It's you miss your idea of who you thought they were. Right? Yeah. And then, you know, when we talk about the aftermath, sometimes we create a story about why it happened because we want things to make sense.

And so in your story creation of why it happened, you may be looking at yourself or blaming yourself or shaming yourself when the truth of it really may have nothing to do with you. It may be that he had or he or she had access. It may be just for fun. It may be that they were socialized to never be faithful and have not been faithful their whole lives.

And so in your story creation of why it happened, you may be looking at yourself or blaming yourself or shaming yourself when the truth of it really may have nothing to do with you. It may be that he had or he or she had access. It may be just for fun. It may be that they were socialized to never be faithful and have not been faithful their whole lives.

And so in your story creation of why it happened, you may be looking at yourself or blaming yourself or shaming yourself when the truth of it really may have nothing to do with you. It may be that he had or he or she had access. It may be just for fun. It may be that they were socialized to never be faithful and have not been faithful their whole lives.

And so sometimes we try to, it's an illusion of control. If I figure out what I did wrong and I do it different this time, I'll be safe. And so I invite you to release yourself from the lie that you could have made it be different. Yeah. The person who could have made it be different is the other person, right? That is so powerful.

And so sometimes we try to, it's an illusion of control. If I figure out what I did wrong and I do it different this time, I'll be safe. And so I invite you to release yourself from the lie that you could have made it be different. Yeah. The person who could have made it be different is the other person, right? That is so powerful.

And so sometimes we try to, it's an illusion of control. If I figure out what I did wrong and I do it different this time, I'll be safe. And so I invite you to release yourself from the lie that you could have made it be different. Yeah. The person who could have made it be different is the other person, right? That is so powerful.

We desire. Yeah, we desire the control. And let me say the part of you that was immediately like, I don't want relationships again is actually a healthy part. It's good to be still after a breakup. Sometimes people jump right out there and they go pick a new person, different name, different face, same personality, same cycle. So it's an indication of healthiness to pause.

We desire. Yeah, we desire the control. And let me say the part of you that was immediately like, I don't want relationships again is actually a healthy part. It's good to be still after a breakup. Sometimes people jump right out there and they go pick a new person, different name, different face, same personality, same cycle. So it's an indication of healthiness to pause.

We desire. Yeah, we desire the control. And let me say the part of you that was immediately like, I don't want relationships again is actually a healthy part. It's good to be still after a breakup. Sometimes people jump right out there and they go pick a new person, different name, different face, same personality, same cycle. So it's an indication of healthiness to pause.

And then it's an indication that you've started healing when a part of you now desires relationship again, right? Because before you didn't want it. Now you're like, maybe it would be nice. So that's your heart starting to open back up again. And to not sabotage it. I know you talk about running, especially if you feel moved by them because it doesn't feel safe.

And then it's an indication that you've started healing when a part of you now desires relationship again, right? Because before you didn't want it. Now you're like, maybe it would be nice. So that's your heart starting to open back up again. And to not sabotage it. I know you talk about running, especially if you feel moved by them because it doesn't feel safe.

And then it's an indication that you've started healing when a part of you now desires relationship again, right? Because before you didn't want it. Now you're like, maybe it would be nice. So that's your heart starting to open back up again. And to not sabotage it. I know you talk about running, especially if you feel moved by them because it doesn't feel safe.

But while part of our healing happens individually, like by ourselves, and part of it happens in therapy, a part of your heart's healing will only take place actually in healthy, loving relationship. Right. That's when you will really grasp some of the triggers to learn how to show up and not run. It's going to happen in that process.

But while part of our healing happens individually, like by ourselves, and part of it happens in therapy, a part of your heart's healing will only take place actually in healthy, loving relationship. Right. That's when you will really grasp some of the triggers to learn how to show up and not run. It's going to happen in that process.

But while part of our healing happens individually, like by ourselves, and part of it happens in therapy, a part of your heart's healing will only take place actually in healthy, loving relationship. Right. That's when you will really grasp some of the triggers to learn how to show up and not run. It's going to happen in that process.

And so giving yourself the patience and permission to try again, to not let the ex rob you of the realities of love. Right.

And so giving yourself the patience and permission to try again, to not let the ex rob you of the realities of love. Right.