Dr. Viviana Coles
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Yeah, it can be. It can always be something that you've adapted from psychological damage, but that is not always the case. So I would say it's a maybe. Okay.
It can be emotionally harmful. I wish I could say yes or no, but it can be depending on the actual circumstances for each of the partners. But for most people, exploring in different ways, using all sorts of accessories and tools and fantasies can be very healthy.
Yes. So cuckolding is a term that refers to when a partner enjoys and gets sexual gratification from watching or knowing that their partner is experiencing a sexual behavior or sexual pleasure with someone else outside of their own sexual experience. So they may be in the room. They may be across the country. They may just be getting information via text in between kisses, whatever it is.
I would say anytime that someone is doing something against their will for fear of harm to themselves or even being threatened, their life being threatened, if they feel like there's retaliation that might happen, whether that's real or imagined, those are things that I think
I'm not an attorney, so I don't know if it's criminal, but I think it's very unhealthy and dysfunctional at the least to want to make someone do something that they don't want to do, especially in a vulnerable and sensitive place like sex.
So, it depends on if you're negotiating whether you're the one that's urinating on your partner or they're urinating on you. Either way, I think it's so important to be able to really reflect on why it is that this is important to you. For some people, and I think this is probably more likely under these scenarios that you're talking about, it's a sign of dominance.
It's a sign of almost like ownership or establishing you're my partner and you're mine. And so for a lot of people, that is a really erotic thought to have that sense of dominance and of connection in that way. For some people, they do that with blood bonding. With others, there are species involved. With others, Scat plays, isn't that what that's called?
Yeah, well, and I think for a lot of people who are doing these things as part of their non-traditional but more routine sexual play, they've done a lot of the research of how to do these things in a way that isn't going to make somebody extremely ill and
and they know how to stop when someone says no or if even in the middle of playing if the person says no it means no and all things need to end and unfortunately with these very uh random stranger experiences that some people are experiencing they can't really trust each other enough to know that they're they're in safe hands
And that's very common practice in any sexual relationship. Yes.
Yeah, a lot of people in sexual relationships, as they're getting to know each other, as they're getting to understand what feels good and feels pleasurable in healthy relationships, especially in long-term established relationships, they can grow with each other and they can almost initiate different things. And maybe for most long-term couples, they don't...
way that their sex life looked at the very beginning is very different than 20, 30 years in.
Well, and people who are in the BDSM community and who are really researched on these things, they do like rehearsals. They have communication that makes it to where you're not actually at risk typically for real, real danger. That is not what gets a lot of these people off. It's more about the pleasure that's derived from being vulnerable with someone. And so the idea of
It just being something that you do spontaneously is very reckless for a lot of people to try that in their own bedrooms. Even with something as more commonplace as anal sex, I'm always telling my clients, you need to prepare your body for that or you can risk it.
You know, I can't really speak to that because I don't know anything about him or his childhood, but I can tell you that for a lot of people who are struggling to find healthy ways to express their sexuality in consensual ways,
I think the piece that is missing for a lot of them is understanding true empathy and being able to understand what it's like to be the recipient of some of these actions and caring about their experience. So if you're out there and you're in a sexual relationship and all you're about is how it feels to you and what works to you, chances are you're not in a very healthy sexual relationship.
And I think the piece that's missing for a lot of people in relationships where they're experiencing repeated, coerced. And, you know, the piece that's missing is not having the access to education, the planning, the choice and decision making that every sexual experience should have in order to truly be healthy and bonding.
Well, shame on you, Aubrey.
Yeah, I think to answer your question, I think it is a very common thing to have sex parties all over the U.S. and all over the world. The difference is that there are rules that people play by.
And sometimes they won't allow any excessive use of drugs or alcohol. They don't want anyone being able to forfeit their ability to consent even halfway through the party. Certainly, there are no phones, filming, recordings involved.
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