Dr. Yath Ramesh

And he then got to a stage where he couldn't cope with the demands of

family life and his role so he was married he had a daughter and he came back every day with no energy for the for the rest of the day eventually he started to use alcohol as a way to cope and at one point when his daughter was aged eight his wife cited his lack of interest in the relationship his lack of interest in parenting and his alcohol use as the reasons why she was separating from him

That was the first chapter in his life.

The second chapter of his life, he started to turn things around.

He became sober.

He moved out of the corporate world and he became a decorator.

He ran his own business.

He did something he loved and he had a team and he continued with that career for decades and decades.

And he only retired in his late seventies.

Why did this man come and see me?

Because the narrative he told himself was that I went through a difficult time.

I made mistakes and I turned things around by starting my own business and getting more freedom and developing life in a different way.

That's what he told himself, but it didn't explain everything for him.

What he struggled with was the fact that he was now isolated, couldn't understand why things got so bad and he'd lost, he'd become estranged from a lot of his friends and family.

When we unpicked it and he realized how much of his first part of his life he had masked and how he had built his second half of his life around his ADHD symptoms inadvertently, it all started to make sense for him.

But then what came was, I guess, what do you do next in that scenario?

And for him, what was really important is first of all, he needed to forgive himself.

So he felt really guilty about the fact that his daughter had parents who'd separated when she was younger because he'd been through the same thing and he'd repeated the cycle for his daughter.

He needed to forgive himself about that.

The next thing is that he needed to make contact with the people, the friends and family that were still living, that he'd lost contact with, in order to explain to them and apologize to them for how he had been.