Dr. Zelana Montminy

And that's when intimacy starts to build when you can tolerate each other's discomfort and be there for that moment, those moments.

Yeah, sure.

And so for those of you who don't know this metaphor, it's really about rocks, pebbles, and sand.

And if you fill your jar with sand first, there's obviously no room for the rocks.

But if you start with the rocks first and then the pebbles, so the rocks are like the things that matter the most, which is health, family, like work, rest, relationships, et cetera.

And then you've got the pebbles, like that's like the supportive stuff, like the meetings, the errands, the logistics of life.

And then the sand is the reactive noise.

It's like the scrolling, the emails, the obligations that like don't really do much for your life.

So if you put the rocks first and then the pebbles, the sand sort of settles in around that.

So you can still do some of those things, but they don't take precedent.

So I think that's what you're referring to, right?

And so when you look at your calendar and audit your life, I suggest maybe color coding.

So maybe green can be the rock and the red is like the pebble and the gray is like the sand or something like that.

And then you have to start layering in what's critical and

to your rocks, like the things that matter.

And so putting her into your home, getting the things ready, that takes precedent.

And so tracking back from when the due date is for that and maybe give yourself a little cushion in case you lag a little bit.

So I always say never schedule things exactly when you need them done.

You should always give yourself a few days of a window because life happens, things come up.

and then track back from there and map out how many rocks am I targeting per day?