Eileen Devine
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327 appearances
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first heard Nov 2019
last heard Nov 2019
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Um, we can usually find some grief and loss that needs to be processed that they're going through.
The other unique piece that I would say applies to that group of parents specifically is the dynamic then with the birth parents.
Um there are, you know, a best practice in the adoption world is to have open adoptions.
I agree with that wholeheartedly.
And when you have a child who has significant developmental delays that have been caused by birth mom's prenatal alcohol or substance use, then that open adoption gets even trickier than it already is.
And so having the difficult conversations about
the way that your child is struggling and having to
Help the birth mom understand why that is, right?
Even just naming
The diagnosis is something that a lot of birth parents have or a lot of adoptive parents have a lot of reluctance to do in terms of their relationship with the birth parents.
That relationship is already
tricky and fragile and emotional in its own way that to add this layer in gets makes things very complicated very quickly.
Yeah, I think that that I think that that's what it is.
What is it?
Naming what it is and then understanding
Once you once you can name it and understand what your experience is, then you can start to take small gentle steps with yourself to move through it.
Right.
If we don't understand what it is, then our then our reaction usually is to get the heck out.
Like to hide from it, deny it, whatever it might be, offload it onto somebody else, right?
As that anger, that resentment, whatever it might be.
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