Eileen Devine
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327 appearances
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first heard Nov 2019
last heard Nov 2019
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Um, if we can understand like, ah, this is what I'm going through and it's actually really normal and it's actually really common.
That's why I like to bring these parents together so they don't feel so isolated in these types of experiences, um, then maybe they can with support gently start to work through it.
The other piece that I think makes this whole parenting experience really unique, whether you're adoptive or a biological parent, is that at a certain point your child starts to recognize that things are different for them, right?
That things are easier for their peers or that they're being left out in ways socially that don't feel good.
And if you can talk about that neurodiversity that brains work differently, and these are how all of our brains work differently from a very young age, I think that helps them a bit in terms of normalizing that experience, but it's still incredibly hard.
And so then what we're left to do as parents is to help our child
through their grief and loss experience in terms of having this brain-based disability that they will always struggle with in one way or another.
And so
If we can have a handle on kind of what our emotional experience is and being doing the work ourselves, then I think we have a greater capacity to help our child through their experience when that time comes.
And so then when you talk about the added layer of our our child's adoption story and their just experience being an adopted child, that of course is then another layer, right?
And if you're exp if your child is experiencing dismaturity and there's that gap between social, emotional, the ability to manage those emotions, understand what they need, all of that kind of stuff, that of course is a big piece in understanding your child as you start to help them through that process.
How am I going to talk to my child in a language that matches their developmental age so that they can understand this?
And at those developmental ages, whatever it is for that child, they can process it in the way that they need to.
Oh, thank you.
Well, like I said in the beginning, it it it it is a true honor that these parents share their stories with me and entrust these stories to me because I know, again, going back to when I was like, Where's my person?
They can walk beside me and like truly understand this kind of crazy reality that I'm currently living.
Like, where are they?
Right.
I don't want any parent to feel alone in that.
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