Eimear Coffey

We were all in the same boat.

But it was, it was devastating.

It was such, you know, if somebody wants to finish a relationship or things aren't working out, tell me, you know, but he was constantly, I wanted to end it many times and he was constantly...

Holding me there.

Let's make it work.

Don't give up.

Do you know whether I think, you know, relationships end and it's devastating and heartbreaking.

But I think for this one, it just felt like there was so many layers and I was so confused.

how had all these lies happened and you know not just lying to me but to my parents and you know different stories different times on you know that that the lies were going on with everybody around him.

So I, it was just, Brenda, as things began to unfold, I just felt like I didn't even know who I was then.

I began to almost self-loathe, you know, that.

How the fuck did you not know what was going on?

You knew something, but, you know, and I began to be really angry at myself then.

Do you know, you're bright, and I would like to think I'm bright and intelligent, and how are you so flippant stupid?

Oh, how I spoke to myself was just horrendous.

You know, I just was really hard on myself, really angry at myself.

And I just felt lost, like the only word was lost.

And also like he had died almost because I had under, I started really intensive therapy.

My sister's a therapist and she spoke with her supervisor about my situation.

And her supervisor gave my sister the best advice.