Ella Mills

And essentially the idea is like life is fast.

filled with trade-offs.

The idea that you can have four stovetops on 100%, it's just not possible.

There's not enough electricity or power to do it.

And so you basically have to choose what it is that's really important to you.

And if you want to divide yourself equally between the four, you've basically got to appreciate, recognize, accept, be okay with the idea that you can't maximize them.

So they'd all be at 50% or whatever it is.

And I think it's a really helpful analogy, I think, actually, which I'm sure is why it's so popular.

If you want to prioritize, say, health and your family, you probably have to dial back a little bit on ambition and career.

Or if you really want to excel in your work, in your marriage, let's say some of your friendships,

or kind of time you can devote to your health may suffer because the time you might go to the gym, you're out with friends.

And I find this quite helpful.

I mean, I'm a huge believer that you simply cannot have it all at any time in your life.

And I think you have to make choices.

I remember often

upsetting people but like really disappointing people when we were at the kind of max of building delicious siela and then people would be like well what's your work like balance and i was like my balance i don't have a balance i work 24 7 365 days a year if i'm on holiday i'm just working in a different place and then people holidays with your laptop it used to just be the norm that's all we did and i'm not glamorizing it but it was wildly successful

I so agree.

I mean, when my work burner was on a hundred percent, I would say, you know, I tried to give as much as I could to my family, but my friends down, it was honestly at 2%, if that.

And I feel like my health dropped down to that same extent.

And now I've flipped and my work burners down a lot.