Emily Vernem

He's decided that it's wrong.

I was reading about this psychoanalyst in the 50s.

Her name is Karen Horney and she described the tyranny of the shoulds.

And shoulds is kind of like what perfectionists hold on to, right?

But the shoulds have never been more overwhelming.

Like we've never had more access to...

to the amount of shoulds that we should be doing every day and achieving and what health looks like and upholding it and I was thinking over the weekend too so I have great news for everyone so for a week I have been eating like a wellness influencer yeah right because because of the gestational diabetes I've never been on a diet before and I'm on this really strict diet

I'm really a ray of sunshine and I've really taken to it gracefully.

Without complaint.

Without complaint as I do everything.

And I said to Holly, if in a week I feel great, I'm going to be really pissed.

If I am like, oh, actually eating well makes you feel good, I'm going to be pissed.

I have great news.

I feel irritable and I feel fucking hungry.

I'm not hotter.

I didn't float into work.

I'm not sleeping great.

My skin isn't clearer.

I'm just shitty.

And so I feel as though this learning for my year, which is like we all imagine that if we –