Emma Chamberlain

Somebody said, I sometimes struggle to express my opinions and end up just agreeing with others, even though I don't really feel that way on the inside.

How do I get more confident speaking my truth?

I am myself a recovering people pleaser, and I still have moments where I people please, even though I know better.

I still have moments where I do it.

This is something that I'm actively working on.

I think I'll probably be working on it for the rest of my life.

I don't know that I'll ever arrive at a place where I'm just someone who's 120% comfortable with

saying, no, I don't agree with that.

Nah, I don't like that.

I think that's always going to be hard for me.

I think it's just who I am.

So I relate to this.

However, something that I remind myself of when I'm kind of feeling tempted to just agree, fit in with everyone else, whatever, something that I remind myself of is,

that having your own unique point of view instead of opinions is far more respectable, attractive, and interesting, in my opinion, and in the opinion of the internet, I've Googled this before, than being agreeable, agreeing with everything that everyone says.

I think a lot of it is subconscious, but like we respect people who lightly disagree with us.

We respect people who like different things than we do.

I mean, listen, obviously there's exceptions.

I think for the sake of this conversation, I'm not talking about serious topics, but rather more lighthearted things like whether or not a movie is good.

Whether or not a restaurant is good, whether or not a pair of jeans is cute, whether or not what your friend did last year at your other friend's birthday party was wrong or not, you know, like things that are a bit more lighthearted.

Let's keep it in this world for this conversation, because I think that that's really what we're talking about here.