Emma Chamberlain

I think if it's fair to yourself and it makes sense in this situation, meaning whatever this person is doing isn't so bad, so bad that, you know, it's like an obvious sort of choice to leave the relationship, I would say bring it up and give them a little chance to resolve it first.

see what they do.

And if they don't take this as a growth opportunity, if perhaps they're defensive upon the confrontation, if perhaps they are open to the criticism, the constructive criticism in the moment, but then they don't actually grow from that.

Okay.

Then you can have a conversation.

You can be like, you know what?

We've talked about this before.

It hasn't really changed.

And it's something that

really bugs me and I don't think I can be in your life in the capacity that I'm in it now because I just can't handle that.

That was definitely kind of therapy speak.

I don't even go to therapy currently, so it's like, where did that come from?

But that was sort of therapy speak.

But then at that point, it's not coming out of left field.

It's not coming out of nowhere.

You've already brought this up.

Your friend is aware that there's something about them that is challenging for you.

Perhaps challenging to many people.

It's just a challenging trait in general.

And you can feel good knowing that you gave them the chance.