Emma Chamberlain

I think that we think instinctually that agreeing with everyone will make us more likable because I think instinctually we feel like, oh, if we have things in common with others, then that means that we're similar.

And then that means that we that they'll want to hang out because we like the same things.

But the truth is, at least in my experience, when someone just agrees with everything I say, I'm kind of like, well, I don't really believe them anymore.

You know what I mean?

I don't actively think that, but like subconsciously I'm like, there's no way you agree with me on everything.

If anything, it makes the things that we agree on more powerful if there are some things that we disagree on.

We respect people who clearly have a spine, clearly have a sense of self, are confident in their opinions and beliefs, and aren't afraid to disagree.

We admire that.

We're attracted to that.

We like honesty.

So I know that your gut might be tricking you into thinking that agreeing with everything is the move because it, in theory, should make us more likable.

But something that I do is remind myself that standing firm in who I am is actually going to make me more attractive and interesting.

And you know what?

Worst case scenario, worst case scenario, it doesn't.

Worst case scenario, someone would prefer me if I did just agree with everything that they had to say.

Well, guess what?

That's not somebody I want to be around.

I don't want to be around somebody who has such like a fragile sense of themselves that if I disagree with them on like whether or not a restaurant is good, they actually get butt hurt.

Or if I don't like their favorite song, they get butt hurt.

I would rather be myself and have someone get offended that I disagreed with them and then realize, ooh, I don't want to be around this person than just agree with everything, suppress my sense of self, and then, I don't know, continue to be friends with somebody who has kind of a negative trait that I could have picked up on and then ultimately...