Emma Chamberlain

You gave them a heads up.

And that was the most that you could do.

And they are not going to feel like this is coming out of left field, coming out of nowhere.

You know what I mean?

I think it doesn't hurt to bring it up and see what they do.

And then go from there.

I think that that is potentially a great solution for you.

I will say, though...

If your friend is like doing something really wrong, like being really mean to you or I don't even know, like, you know, doing something that's sort of that's like super, super fucked up.

OK, saying mean things about you, bringing you down constantly.

And you've never brought it up because you're like, I'm just trying to be chill.

I'm trying to be a chill friend.

You know, I don't want to.

I don't want to stir the pot.

Well, chances are, if your friend is doing something that bad, they know.

They know that they're doing that.

So if you bring it up, even if it comes out of left field, even if it kind of feels like it's coming out of nowhere, if it's something like that, if you bring it up and you say, you know what, I don't know, like, I really wanted to be friends with you, but, you know, you really hurt me in this way.

You really sucked the life out of me, to use your own words.

And this is why if it's something that is actually deeply hurtful and not just like, oh, they copy everything I do or, oh, they always ditch me at parties and go talk to boys, other boys, or like I'm just giving random examples.

things that are not ideal but also not necessarily a complete deal breaker right those are things that could be worked through whereas like if somebody's not on your team they're bringing you down they're saying mean shit about you to your face they're like trying to bring you down a peg constantly and that's sucking the life out of you like that's a huge issue and yes I think that that's a valid reason to leave a friendship immediately but I think if you bring that up and