Emma Grede

I'm just saying.

So that's my point.

And I hope I've cleared it up.

And if I haven't, there's more in the book.

Okay, one more question.

Here we go.

This person asked, I'm conflicted whether I should go after my dream career right now, then wait to start my family or start my family first when I'm still figuring it out.

But of course, little old me, mother of four, has a point of view on this.

And it's something that I talk about so much in the book.

There is an entire chapter on family.

But here is another old thought I think we really need to move on from.

The thought that you should get your career totally dialed in before you have kids.

I'm going to be so unpopular when this book comes out.

But never mind.

A couple of things I just want to get out of the way because I know that this is a really touchy subject.

The first thing is, there is no perfect time to have a baby.

There is, however, a biological reality.

Careers recover, fertility doesn't.

IVF is a privilege, not a plan.

And waiting for stability is how so many women actually lose choice.