E.R. Fightmaster

And I still do a lot of that as an adult, like when I'm in a new relationship, you know what I mean? Like I think that those moments with a partner where you're like really appreciating all of the things that we're taught are like, I don't know, not the goal.

Like everything other than the privates. Yeah. Like that is a part of really getting your oxytocin levels right, really getting plugged into your partner. And then... It doesn't matter if you have the confidence or not, because all of that moves away from you and you're having sex with a person. And that is so much more important than how you're identifying in that moment, in my opinion.

Like everything other than the privates. Yeah. Like that is a part of really getting your oxytocin levels right, really getting plugged into your partner. And then... It doesn't matter if you have the confidence or not, because all of that moves away from you and you're having sex with a person. And that is so much more important than how you're identifying in that moment, in my opinion.

Like everything other than the privates. Yeah. Like that is a part of really getting your oxytocin levels right, really getting plugged into your partner. And then... It doesn't matter if you have the confidence or not, because all of that moves away from you and you're having sex with a person. And that is so much more important than how you're identifying in that moment, in my opinion.

And I think over the course of time, it will become clear to you as you like start to have sex more thoughtfully and comfortably, you know, if that label is important to you at all. But like the reason I'm a top is because I'm comfortable. And I got comfortable by being very aware and in love with the woman that I was sleeping with.

And I think over the course of time, it will become clear to you as you like start to have sex more thoughtfully and comfortably, you know, if that label is important to you at all. But like the reason I'm a top is because I'm comfortable. And I got comfortable by being very aware and in love with the woman that I was sleeping with.

And I think over the course of time, it will become clear to you as you like start to have sex more thoughtfully and comfortably, you know, if that label is important to you at all. But like the reason I'm a top is because I'm comfortable. And I got comfortable by being very aware and in love with the woman that I was sleeping with.

And I think that we're starting at top instead of starting in love.

And I think that we're starting at top instead of starting in love.

And I think that we're starting at top instead of starting in love.

A real top is a good bottom.

A real top is a good bottom.

A real top is a good bottom.

That is the truth. That's what we know about doms. The thing that makes a good dom is knowing when to stop and paying attention. A real top is an excellent bottom. And going in there to dominate... doesn't make a ton of sense. It's just, it's like, that's not the purpose of the experience.

That is the truth. That's what we know about doms. The thing that makes a good dom is knowing when to stop and paying attention. A real top is an excellent bottom. And going in there to dominate... doesn't make a ton of sense. It's just, it's like, that's not the purpose of the experience.

That is the truth. That's what we know about doms. The thing that makes a good dom is knowing when to stop and paying attention. A real top is an excellent bottom. And going in there to dominate... doesn't make a ton of sense. It's just, it's like, that's not the purpose of the experience.

That's what I'm, I'm a little bit worried about, about everybody. Cause I'm also like, when we're talking about tops and bottoms, like, I'm thinking about energetics. For sure. Me too. It's, like, not to be, like, you know, crass, but it's not like I'm never getting fucked by my partner. Right. That's not it. Like, we're really talking about, like, an energy. Yeah.

That's what I'm, I'm a little bit worried about, about everybody. Cause I'm also like, when we're talking about tops and bottoms, like, I'm thinking about energetics. For sure. Me too. It's, like, not to be, like, you know, crass, but it's not like I'm never getting fucked by my partner. Right. That's not it. Like, we're really talking about, like, an energy. Yeah.

That's what I'm, I'm a little bit worried about, about everybody. Cause I'm also like, when we're talking about tops and bottoms, like, I'm thinking about energetics. For sure. Me too. It's, like, not to be, like, you know, crass, but it's not like I'm never getting fucked by my partner. Right. That's not it. Like, we're really talking about, like, an energy. Yeah.

And I... Unless, of course, you're, like, stone butch and that's important to you and, you know, whatever. For sure. It's not my body. It's not my business. But... I think we're too focused on the politics of penetration and we are not focused enough on our partners, whether that partner is a one-night stand or the person you land with.