Esther Perel

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5,077 appearances 21 recordings 15 series first heard Sep 2024 last heard 21 Jun

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Which is also being agreeable constantly.

Beyond agreeable.

That's such a beautiful question, Jay.

If I am alone and I have to make a decision that demands to take risks and to be cautious, then I have to negotiate that inside myself.

My tendency is that I am the risk taker.

So I need to pay attention to not going too far.

Or my tendency is to stay close and not to leap and not to take risks.

Then I need to think of the other side.

But if we are in a relationship,

The only reason, the only way that I can completely be the way I am is because there's somebody next to me balancing this off with the other side.

Those are part of the reality.

You know, should we move or should we not move?

Should we have another child?

Should we get more committed?

Should we take a break?

Should we bring in other partners?

Whatever it is, it's all negotiations these days.

If I'm alone, I have to deal with this ambivalence myself.

When I'm in a relationship, you provide the counterforce.

And when people see this, exactly the way you described this person whose partner is less ambitious, that in fact, it's a counterforce.

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