Esther Perel
๐ค SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
No, no, no.
I'm not talking about toxicity.
I'm talking about friction.
I'm talking about this that creates heat.
It's really that.
It's the ability to tolerate difference.
It's the idea that other people will have very different versions of what just happened.
And they're sitting right side by side with you.
It's tolerance for conflict.
It's rupture and repair.
Friction is all the paradoxes or the contradictions that we feel in relationships.
Attraction and disgust.
Care and aggression.
Rupture and repair.
Trust and betrayal.
These polarities are intrinsic.
They are part and parcel of every relationship.
They come and go.
They move, you know.
There are moments when you are deeply trusting and moments where you are suspicious.