Esther Perel

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5,077 appearances 21 recordings 15 series first heard Sep 2024 last heard 21 Jun

Esther Perel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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It goes on and on like this, where I have a reaction.

I don't have any feelings of my own.

I don't have a bodily state of my own.

I can't tolerate your bodily state being different from my own.

And we are rubbing, constantly rubbing, rubbing, rubbing.

This is fusion.

We are one, and the only way we deal with our differences is through conflict and toxic friction.

Interdependence is what is the normal state of affairs.

It's not dependence or independence.

We are interdependent creatures.

And it is a constant negotiation between I don't want to go, that upsets you.

Of course it will upset you because you were counting on me.

But I'm going to say no and you're going to be upset.

And I'm going to accept that you're upset and you're going to accept that I'm going to go.

We are interdependent.

This is in a situation where we actually are in disagreement.

I need you, but I don't need you to be the missing piece inside of me.

I need you because you are something different from me.

And that is a part of me that is not as developed.

That's the complementarity.

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