Esther Perel

A first date is the first page of a story.

And it will either be a short story or a novel.

I wish I could give you a blanket answer, but it really depends on you.

You know, relationships thrive in complementarity.

I am a person who is very solid, says one.

I structure my life.

I'm reliable.

But sometimes I wish I was a little bit more flowy.

I wish I was more spontaneous.

I wish I didn't overthink things.

And I welcome someone in my life that actually is more fluid, is more spontaneous, is less rigid like that, and vice versa.

That's a complementarity that's very common.

I can give you basic sets of human traits.

Yes, find someone who is decent.

Number one, number one, decency.

Find someone who is kind, who enjoys giving, who likes to think about others and isn't just constantly making sure that they have the bigger piece on their plate.

Find someone who, for some of us, it's someone who can...

rejoice who really can wake up in a good mood because that's something that doesn't always happen to me find someone who if it matters to you has a sense of family find someone who has a sense of religion if it matters to you find someone who loves to travel if it matters to you find someone who can tolerate difference but ask yourself also can you tolerate difference

It's like, look inward.

Don't just, you know.