Esther Perel
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5,077 appearances
21 recordings
15 series
first heard Sep 2024
last heard 21 Jun
Esther Perel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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And you're hearing my voice saying, I believe in you.
Go, go, go.
Push another.
So we have loads of beautiful...
Small-scale and large-scale examples of healthy interdependence.
Yeah, yeah.
It's beautiful.
I love that answer.
I wanted to ask you, Esther, it's been 20 years since you wrote Mating in Captivity.
It's truly an iconic book, transforming millions and millions of lives and will continue to do.
I wanted to ask you, what's been a lesson or a truth that you discovered while writing this book that you think is as true today as it was 20 years ago?
People often have the wish that desire should be spontaneous.
It should just happen.
It should fall from the heavens while you're folding the laundry.
Like a deus ex machina.
And instead of whatever is going to just happen in a relationship, probably already has, it happens because you create it, you preserve it, you nurture it, you value it, you tend to it, you infuse it with ritual, with intentionality, as in the intentional dating, with meaning, with creativity, with fun, with playfulness.
That's what preserves desire.
It's the erotic energy that makes you feel alive, vibrant, vital.
That has not changed.
It's to tell people pleasure is cultivated.
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