Esther Perel

Yes, exactly.

And especially those for whom this feels weakening to admit, to acknowledge, to take responsibility, to say I made a mistake or I was wrong or I went too far.

Why do they have the most power?

Because if I say that to you, it is more likely that you will say, A, thank you.

B, I appreciate this.

Three, you feel seen.

four you realize that we're both in this together yeah and um and five it's not so bad i can get over it because my admission is all you needed i don't need to you know stretch myself on the floor it's not i shame myself and make my is i'm just simply saying to you

It's this, it's that gesture with my head.

I know, I see, I own it, I take my responsibility.

And then usually what do you do?

You say, well, I wasn't at my best either.

Right, then they'll meet you there.

You'll meet me there.

You'll meet me there.

That's power.

That's power too, rather than power over.

Why is it toxic?

Because you're... What is the tone when you say what you just said?

Like they're using that.

There's a word for it.