Esther Perel

Sometimes, by the way, that is a betrayal too.

For six years, you haven't said a thing to me.

Because what are they supposed to do?

Or you've been fantasizing about someone else or you've been not liking it and pretending to me.

That sometimes hurts no less than you've been... Because you've been elsewhere.

Yeah.

Whether you've been elsewhere alone or you've been elsewhere, I feel like you have just, you know, I thought I was with you in this and I've just discovered that I was by myself.

When you are cold, I'm not instantly cold.

You've got your own body temperature and I can say, oh, that's interesting.

I can't say, how can you be cold?

I'm not cold.

Why should you be cold?

I'm the thermometer.

When you're hungry, I'm not immediately hungry.

When you're tired or when I'm tired, you're not instantly tired.

We have a different system.

But somehow when you're upset or when you're sad or when you're anxious or worried, that instantly makes me anxious.

Because your feelings are my feelings.

If you're unhappy, that makes me unhappy.

Or I think that you're unhappy because it's me.