Esther Perel

And you would have to figure out yourself. Do I work or do I take off? Do I want kids? Do I not want kids? Do I want to be in a relationship? But when you're in a relationship, it becomes I want A and you want B and now let's fight.

And this piece about how you have to negotiate the complexity and you can't resolve it by just picking one side, but it is all about integrating these polarities is, I think, what makes us either in a good relationship or not, or in a good society or not, for that matter. The opposite of that is cleavages, intolerance, conflict, disconnect, polarization, all the words that are rampant these days.

And this piece about how you have to negotiate the complexity and you can't resolve it by just picking one side, but it is all about integrating these polarities is, I think, what makes us either in a good relationship or not, or in a good society or not, for that matter. The opposite of that is cleavages, intolerance, conflict, disconnect, polarization, all the words that are rampant these days.

Yeah, do I want tradition or do I want innovation?

Yeah, do I want tradition or do I want innovation?

Do we want Europe, tradition, history, the past, the timelessness, the Sunday? Or do we want the United States, efficient, pragmatic, everything is open 24 hours, seven days a week? As if it's that or that. It's not. We need, we appreciate this and we appreciate that. So how do we bring these things together? You know, complex problems don't get solved. They are paradoxes that you manage.

Do we want Europe, tradition, history, the past, the timelessness, the Sunday? Or do we want the United States, efficient, pragmatic, everything is open 24 hours, seven days a week? As if it's that or that. It's not. We need, we appreciate this and we appreciate that. So how do we bring these things together? You know, complex problems don't get solved. They are paradoxes that you manage.

Exactly.

Exactly.

And it's a both end that changes constantly versus an either or. Because these things are too complicated to make it an either or. Tech, AI, all of this, this or that, you know, the old system, the new system. No, there is, you want this, but there are consequences to it. So can we check on it? Then we want some of that, but we don't want all of what it was.

And it's a both end that changes constantly versus an either or. Because these things are too complicated to make it an either or. Tech, AI, all of this, this or that, you know, the old system, the new system. No, there is, you want this, but there are consequences to it. So can we check on it? Then we want some of that, but we don't want all of what it was.

this is a very different way of resolving the big issues of our life of our society of our of our relationships and i don't know how one helps to shift that but that would be if somebody can help me you know do this at scale i want to be on the lead of that okay i'll apply my mind to it i might not be the person but i might bump into the person so i'll You let me know.

this is a very different way of resolving the big issues of our life of our society of our of our relationships and i don't know how one helps to shift that but that would be if somebody can help me you know do this at scale i want to be on the lead of that okay i'll apply my mind to it i might not be the person but i might bump into the person so i'll You let me know.

But do you know what I'm saying?

But do you know what I'm saying?

What do you mean an outcome of what they tried to create?

What do you mean an outcome of what they tried to create?

You know what I did in my show about that? And so the first thing I asked when people, as I meet them, is how many of you are here as a plus one, know nothing about me, but were recruited and you were curious and open enough to come on some anthropological field trip? And so I just want to welcome the skeptics.

You know what I did in my show about that? And so the first thing I asked when people, as I meet them, is how many of you are here as a plus one, know nothing about me, but were recruited and you were curious and open enough to come on some anthropological field trip? And so I just want to welcome the skeptics.

I love that.