Esther Perel

Oh, no.

Yeah, but that's not such a good proposition.

Yeah, but that's not such a good proposition.

I'm very... I wouldn't know how to answer this. If I...

I'm very... I wouldn't know how to answer this. If I...

I know how I would answer.

I know how I would answer.

But it's not, I'm going to start on the conceptual level. I think this thing I just described, how do you balance the I and the we?

But it's not, I'm going to start on the conceptual level. I think this thing I just described, how do you balance the I and the we?

Okay.

Okay.

You know, me and the other. Us, them, all these divisions. The majority of these issues are, In relationships, for sure, it's complex. In relationships of two people, if there is a complicated question that can have two polarities, it's very easy to take half of the story. I take one side of the issue and I put the other side on you.

You know, me and the other. Us, them, all these divisions. The majority of these issues are, In relationships, for sure, it's complex. In relationships of two people, if there is a complicated question that can have two polarities, it's very easy to take half of the story. I take one side of the issue and I put the other side on you.

And you could do this with, should the kid have a pacifier, as you could do this about sex, as you could do this about money. It doesn't matter the issue. Polarization doesn't have much to do with the thing that you're actually differing about. It's the fact that you've taken the complexity and you have parceled it out. If you were alone, you would have to deal with both parts of it yourself.

And you could do this with, should the kid have a pacifier, as you could do this about sex, as you could do this about money. It doesn't matter the issue. Polarization doesn't have much to do with the thing that you're actually differing about. It's the fact that you've taken the complexity and you have parceled it out. If you were alone, you would have to deal with both parts of it yourself.

Right? Do I want to clean or do I not want to clean? Do I want to get up? Do I want to exercise? Do I want to pray? You would have to negotiate inside of you the two sides of the complexity of this issue because there are different sides.

Right? Do I want to clean or do I not want to clean? Do I want to get up? Do I want to exercise? Do I want to pray? You would have to negotiate inside of you the two sides of the complexity of this issue because there are different sides.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And you would have to figure out yourself. Do I work or do I take off? Do I want kids? Do I not want kids? Do I want to be in a relationship? But when you're in a relationship, it becomes I want A and you want B and now let's fight.