Esther Perel
👤 PersonAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
I'm the one.
And infidelity tells me I'm not.
It is the ultimate betrayal.
Infidelity shatters the grand ambition of love.
But if throughout history, infidelity has always been painful, today it is often traumatic because it threatens our sense of self.
So my patient Fernando, he's plagued.
He goes on, I thought I knew my life.
I thought I knew who you were, who we were as a couple, who I was.
Now I question everything.
Infidelity, a violation of trust, a crisis of identity.
Can I ever trust you again, he asks.
Can I ever trust anyone again?
And this is also what my patient Heather is telling me when she's talking to me about her story with Nick.
Married, two kids, Nick just left on a business trip.
And Heather is playing on his iPad with the boys when she sees a message appear on the screen.
Can't wait to see you.
Strange, she thinks, we just saw each other.
And then another message.
Can't wait to hold you in my arms.
And Heather realizes these are not for her.