Esther Perel
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5,077 appearances
21 recordings
15 series
first heard Sep 2024
last heard 21 Jun
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We call it in my work, ambiguous loss.
Have you ever heard that term?
No, I haven't.
Ambiguous loss is a term that was coined by psychologist Pauline Boss when she was talking about situations where you can't resolve the mourning.
Like if you are with someone who has Alzheimer's or dementia, they are physically in front of you, but they are emotionally or psychologically gone.
If they have been deployed or there is abduction or there are miscarriages, they are physically gone, but they are emotionally very, very present.
And in both situations, you don't know, are you here or are you not?
Modern loneliness has that element on a daily basis.
Where I don't know if you're here.
It's like we've come to accept distracted attention as if it is enough and it's not.
And all of those situations make us feel like I'm putting out such efforts and I feel exhausted because it's not really coming back.
Yeah, it's so real.
And I think that's how a lot of people feel today that they're saying, I want to find love.
We all want connection, but then the action to get it, as you said, which requires a bit of friction, which requires a bit of discomfort.
There is no love story that isn't organized around overcoming obstacles.
The greatest love stories have an obstacle that you have to, they almost didn't going to meet again.
They never asked each other's names.
The parents didn't want them to be together.
The age difference was too big.
You need an obstacle.
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